- 5 years ago
- Wedding: July 2013
I’ve been really relaxed with my bridesmaids since the word go. They’re my best friends and I didn’t want to dictate anything to them. I paid for their dresses, but they were completely involved in the decision making process. I asked them to get their own shoes, but didn’t set any kind of criteria other than that the colour mustn’t clash with the dress. I’m trying to do everything to make sure that they’re happy.
We were shopping the other day and I mentioned that I’m wearing my grandmother’s pearls on the day. I’m not really a pearls kind of girl, but it’s really important to my mum as my grandmother died when she was a teenager, and I never got to meet her. It’s really special to me that I get to wear something of hers that also means so much to my mum. I also mentioned that I’m wearing hair combs instead of a tiara, and there will be pearls on the combs too.
The girls started sending me pictures of hair combs they’d seen and asking if they should get them. I asked if they could not get hair combs, as I’m having mine instead of a veil and didn’t want them to match me. It turns out that they’ve also bought jewellery without speaking to me. In itself, that’s not a problem because I didn’t have anything in particular in mind, but they’ve bought fake pearl bracelets and earrings. I’m glad they’re excited, but I’m feeling a bit deflated because I didn’t really want the three of us to match, and I’m worried it will make my grandmother’s antique pearls look cheap.
I don’t feel like I can say anything as I’ve already asked them not to wear combs, and they’ve already paid for the necklaces. Plus, I’m really happy that they’re excited and everything, and I don’t want to seem like I’m being demanding. Am I being silly?