(Closed) Thin Bees, Do you get comments on your weight? Was told I have no curves today.

posted 8 years ago in Fitness
  • poll: Is it worse to call someone too heavy or too thin?

    It's worse to say someone is too heavy.

    It's worse to say someone is too thin.

    You should never comment on weight.

    Oh, poor thin girls! Shut up.

    Oh, poor fat girls! Shut up.

  • Post # 77
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    Bee Keeper

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    @BrandNewBride:  SO glad someone can relate, so frustrating! I would understand if I was like a 00 (being 5’8” and all) and looked scary skinny but trust me, me and my BMI of 22 is far from being scary skinny….lol.

    Post # 78
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I hear ya girl. I’m thin also and people do comment on how small/thin I am. It’s never a compliment though :/ Unless ” Aww you’re so little/cute” I’m 26, I don’t prefer to be called “cute”.

    It’s even gotten so bad that a man that delivers to my office has asked “Why are you so skinny?” Ummmm……

    Post # 80
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

     

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    @PiggehBank: +1

    Sure, it might hurt your feelings what your friend said but I don’t see how posting pics of yourself on WB will change that…

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    @PiggehBank:  +1, this is a bit weird. It comes across like “I don’t want people commenting on my body. Here are a bunch of pictures of my body. Your thoughts?”

    Post # 84
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    Busy bee

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    @bunnyharriet:  I wanted to point out that your last comment can be construed as hurtful. A healthy weight is not something most can determine with their eyes. Girls like me, at 5’11, look and are mostly underweight if we think in BMI terms. My weight may not LOOK healthy, but my weight is not medically unhealthy. 

    If you posted these pictures asking for reassurance that you weren’t fat, this thread would have turned into more of a shit show. Unless you’re obese, you can’t feel you’re overweight, at least that is what I’ve gathered so far. It is also apparently insulting to overweight people if you feel fat at a healthy weight or lack a double chin.

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    @bunnyharriet:  but you said earlier to a poster who commented that you’re not curvy that you didn’t want comments/judgements in this thread. It seems like what you mean is you don’t want anyone to agree you’re not curvy, but you’re fine with people saying you look curvy and good. That’s where you’re getting these comments from. 

    I can tell you there’s no way in hell I would post pictures of myself in a swimsuit online. The fact that you did tells me you’re self confident in your body. And you should be! You’re thin and attractive, and mostly importantly healthy. So just let this woman’s comment roll off your back. Even though it can be hurtful, she’s probably just trying to make herself feel better. It’s her problem and not yours. 

    Besides, these days curvy is really just a nice way to say fat/overweight in many instances. I wouldn’t take it as an insult! 

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    @bunnyharriet:  I don’t doubt that thin girls can have hang ups. You can either let stupid comments get you down, or ignore them. The latter is obviously best, but I know it can be difficult.

    If you post pictures, you will get some that agree with you, and some who say you’re not curvy. That’s just par for the course when you open yourself up to scrutiny online. It’s so subjective. Like I said, many women who make those comments are probably insecure about their own body/weight. 

    Post # 89
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    Helper bee

     

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    @bunnyharriet:  Sorry if I offended you. Since you posted pictures of your body it seemed like you were looking for feedback on whether you were curvy or not. Obviously you didn’t want any comments made about your body, so I’m not sure what the point of the pictures was then.

    Like you said, opinions of what is thin, curvy or fat are subjective. I feel that you are not curvy, and that is my subjective opinion. If you feel you are curvy, then that is your opinion. Neither of us is really right or wrong.

    Opinions of what is rude are also subjective. I am not offended anytime someone says anything about my body without me asking. I would only be offended if they said something in an insulting way. For example, if I was shopping with a friend and she said “That halter dress doesn’t suit your broad shoulders.” I would not be offended. If she said “Oh my god, your shoulders are so wide, they look like ugly man shoulders!” Then I would be offended.

    I also see shopping as being different than other situations. When you are specifically trying items on to see how they fit, comments on body type make more sense then if you were just watching a movie or something and a friend commented on your body out of nowhere. That might be a little odd.

    The point of my original post wasn’t really whether or not you are curvy, it was that, to me, it did not seem like your friend was being insulting. But obviously we have different opinions on that as well.

    Post # 90
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2009

    I used to get comments that I was ‘too skinny’, and now it’s comments of ‘too chubby’. I’ve stopped trying to please people. It doesn’t work. 🙂 I couldn’t care any less what anyone else thought of me; the only two people I care to be attractive to are myself and DH. 

     

    And I’m a C cup. Doesn’t that count as “curves”? This is a question to any Bee that reads it, and as a question, it could probably be answered. If you don’t want comments of “you are curvy!” or “you aren’t curvy at all!”, don’t ask questions about whether your bra size counts as curves. To some, a C cup doesn’t count as curvy, and to others, a C cup is awesomely curvy. Eye of the beholder, and all that.

    Post # 91
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    Busy bee

    Every woman has natural contours on her body and is by definition, curvy, no matter how large nor small those curves are. Period.

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