(Closed) Things about wedding planning that you never understood before becoming a bride

posted 8 years ago in Beehive
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

eloping… 😉

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

[email protected]!!!!!!!!

Ummm…I’d say RSVPing on time! And bringing uninvited guests. I never understood how important these issues are until I found out how much the caterer is charging!!

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

@coffeekitty Thats exactly what i was going to say!

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

Um… I think I didn’t know that it was kind of rude to RSVP no with no explanation. I didn’t understand why it mattered if I brought a date. I hated the ceremony gap (still do, am not having one). 

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Corgi — I am still not convinced that it is rude to RSVP without explanation. We just had a thread like this, and the consensus was mostly that the RSVP is enough and a note is not required. I am personally of the belief (your mileage may vary) that if you and the couple are close, they’ll find out in conversation or you’d make a point to tell them. If it’s more like you’re a B-list guest, then it shouldn’t matter. Then again, I haven’t gotten back note-less RSVPs yet, so maybe I’ll change my mind. I could see this being upsetting if you are close to the bride/groom and they think you’re coming.

I never realized sooo many things about weddings until I started going to them. I was anti-receiving line, anti-seating chart, possibly entirely DIY food… nothing wrong with skipping or doing any of those, but I realized for myself I would like to have a receiving line, a seating chart/escort cards are helpful for guests, and I do not want to deal with making food, serving food, and cleaning up. I want us and our families (who would inevitably have to help) to just relax and have a party.

Post # 9
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Honey Beekeeper

Difficulties choosing a bridal party.

Working with a budget!

Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

@amaryllis- I think maybe rude is the wrong word. Its not wrong to just put “no” and move on.. but I feel like there are a lot of threads where people’s feelings are a little hurt when they get a “no” with no explanation. And honestly (depending on the person) I’d probably be a little sad too. Not that I’d think it was wrong necessarily but just disappointing? It would take me like 30 seconds to write “So sorry I can’t make it but I have ___ that weekend. See you soon and Congrats!!” on the RSVP and it would make the bride and groom so much happier. Its just a little courtesy I will absolutely do in the future. 

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I was surprised to find out how much vendors overcharge when it’s for a wedding.  The same service is 1/2 or 1/3 of the price for any other event but for a wedding they jack up the costs. 

Post # 12
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Honey Beekeeper

Oh, I also didn’t like buffets and having to wait after 20 others tables served themselves to get dinner. But now with a wedding of 250 or more people (buffet style), I understand completely!

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I didn’t understand why wedding planning was such a big deal. I’m a pretty low maintenance kind of girl, and I thought that because of this, wedding planning wouldn’t be as stressful for me, or that I wouldn’t really care that much about the small details that people seemed to obsess over. Now that I’m planning my own wedding, I’m realizing that a) even if you are low maintenance and easy going, you STILL HAVE TO MAKE DECISIONS! As the bride, everyone is going to expect me to know what kind of flowers I want (before wedding planning, I could name maybe 2 flowers on sight), what color the mother of the groom should wear, what color of ribbon to put on the cake, etc. So suddenly I had to develop opinions on things I never before even thought about, which leads me to b) After researching and learning, I suddenly DID care about the details, which really surprised me. 

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Ms. Smuttynose — I completely agree. Our venue has a fabulous sample menu for a holiday buffet that is half the price of the wedding package, but we can’t substitute it. The venue coordinator said that when you add extras like linens, cake, and decorations, it would come close to the same anyway, but I am not convinced. She also added that for those events, you just show up, eat, and leave. She said there is a lot more that goes into a wedding, specifically of her time. So.. eh, take it or leave it, I guess. But I have read threads on here where brides got a quote for cupcakes from a bakery and then when they said wedding, the price jumped like $2 per cupcake despite no change in the order! That is ridiculous.

Corgi — Oh, I see what you are saying. I usually write something like “sorry we can’t make it” but I do not write out why. It all depends on the circumstances, but I think it’s better not to give a potentially awkward explanation, especially if they are not a couple one sees regularly.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

The words Wedding and Bride/Bridal equals regular prices times 5 so budget has been uberly difficult to stay within! And all the flipping options on everything!!

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