Before wedding planning, I did not understand what it meant to be a good guest.
Oh how embarassing, but I will share the list of wedding sins we commited just to prepare you all that people like us might show up at your wedding (my sincerest apologies if they do).
1. My friend at the time (fiance now)- let’s call him Steve, was part of the wedding party and he invited me to be his date 6 months before the wedding. I’m not even sure if he cleared it with the bride and groom. We were not in a relationship when he asked me to be his date. I never did see the actual invitation in the mail and I pray that he actually RSVPed and both of our names were on the envelope. Now that I am planning my own wedding, I would be so pissed if someone invited a date 4 months before invites were even sent out.
2. Steve invited me to the wedding for two reasons- first, it was an excuse to reconnect with me because we are all old friends and went to grade school together with the bride and groom. More importantly I think he did it to piss off his ex girlfriend. We’ll call her Megan for fun. Backstory- Megan and Steve were together for 7 years and during the first year of their relationship he cheated on Megan with me. I had no idea he had a girlfriend and when I found out we immediately stopped seeing each other. I was a point of contention in their relationship for the next 6 years.
3. We had to travel a long distance to be at the wedding- about 3,000 miles, bought plane tickets, rented a car, had to stay at a hotel for 2 nights, etc. All in all the expenses for us were at least $1,000 and Steve had just lost his job. Steve convinced me that because we were spending all of this money on traveling to the wedding we should not get the bride and groom a gift. OMG- I WENT TO A WEDDING AND DID NOT BRING A GIFT. He also decided that he didn’t have to pay for his tux rental as a groomsman, and stuck the bride and groom with his $200 bill.
4. At the wedding, I was drawing all sorts of dirty looks from every woman in the room. Because Megan was part of the wedding party and Steve brought me as his date, there is no fury like a woman scorned. She was beyond pissed. I don’t think she expected me to show up from 3,000 miles away. They had originally planned for Steve and Megan to walk together in the processional. Steve was my boyfriend at that point, so he started introducing me to everyone as his girlfriend (not just his date) and the bride and groom decided the day of the wedding to change the order in which people were walking.
5. Being hated at a wedding and feeling uncomfortable, I decided to get drunk with Steve’s fraternity brothers. In my drunken stumbling around on the dance floor, I broke a wine glass…okay 3 wine glasses. Oops. I am sure the caterer was none too pleased.
It was about 6 months later, when “Steve” proposed and we were starting to plan our own wedding when I realized all of the offensive things we did. I promptly sent a nice wedding gift still left on their registry (better late than never), an apology note and a check for the $200 tux rental Steve had stuck the bride and groom with.
They have since forgiven us and I totally deserve it if someone pulls the same craziness at our wedding.