- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2014
I thought I’d update a situation which I posted about two weeks ago (“My parents are trying to cancel my wedding!!”)
Things certainly aren’t perfect, but my parents are starting to come around and I’m SO relieved. The situation did get worse before it got better, but after my mom and I went to a florist last week, we kind of couldn’t avoid the topic anymore.
There were lots of apologies and my mom and dad told me they weren’t mad at me at all, and that the only thing they were upset about was the way I was communicating, which I take full responsibility for. The original plan will stay – and my fiance is going to talk to his parents about holding a separate banquet. As for the $10-grand coming from his side, he told me it’s his money and he wants to spend it on our wedding and he’s not doing it to be selfless, but rather because he wants an awesome wedding too. However, my parents won’t accept the money from him. This still bugs me, but they say it’s because he needs the money to help support me when we’re married since my health conditions prevent me from working full-time. I guess I see their point.
But I think what made me REALLY happy and I had NO idea she felt this way, but my mom gave me a big hug and said “you don’t know how proud I am of you that you’re not bridezilla. You aren’t having a bridal party, you only spent $450 on your dress and I’m so thrilled you’re saving money on these things.” That – most of all – made me feel so relieved.
I think drama like this when two cultures come together is inevitable. My aunt told me she’d be shocked if there wasn’t conflict. But I’m a very stubborn, argumentative person, so anyone who gets involved with me has to know that fighting is going to happen … haha.
Anyway, thanks for all the support. I’m actually starting to get excited about planning this wedding again. We have our engagement session this Friday which should be fun. And we’re looking to choose a florist now.
Hope everyone is well and happy!