Post # 1
Waiting has reached fever pitch for me. I’m dreaming about my engagement, ring (it’s always a hideous looking thing!) and the wedding nightly now!
The problem is I need to keep occupied. Clearly trying to avoid thinking about it is pointless, so I’ve decided to make a list of things I can do to be proactive rather than wondering around like a nervous wreck!
My list of things to do, while I wait include.
Join a gym to get in shape! I go today for the first time in a year. I’ll be thinking about a gleeming white dress as I sweat it out 🙂
Get a camera. I don’t have one and need one to take plenty of snaps between the yes I’ll marry you and the “I Do”. This will wait until payday.
Make sure my contacts are up to date. I’ll need to call a fair few people, I want to make sure they are contactable.
I’m completely pathetic as I’m trying to also consider what I might put for my fb status when I announce to the masses. Anyone thought of, or heard of something sweet/endearing?
Do you have any other suggestions to help keep each other sane?
Post # 3
@WaitingweddingBE: Well, as silly as it is, I’ve created a folder on my laptop that contains all of the things I want in my wedding. From flowers, jewellery, bridesmaid dresses, shoes, cakes, centre pieces, etc. Everything is picked out already. That way when the time comes, I can just consult my folder and go out and find these things. I’ll avoid the whole “should I go with roses? Or lillies?” debate. I know what I want, it would just be a matter of finding the best price.
Other than that… I’m trying to eat healthy because the day we get married, is the day we’re going to TTC. I’ve fallen off the ‘healthy wagon’ a bit lately, but I’m slowly climbing back on board.
Post # 4
I’m trying to think of things to do also. All I can do is look at SYTTD and Four Weddings. I’ve also searched for my dress online and have it bookmarked on my phone.
I’m in pretty good shape so I try to excercise when I can. I stay busy with my little one and his youth sports.
I graduated 2 months ago so these 2 months have been the hardest out of my whole year of waiting because I had school. Since I’ve graduated and SO got the ring 10 weeks again I’ve been dying. I’m hoping that the waiting is over soon. I’m pulling to be engaged by the end of the month, maybe????
Post # 5
Until you and your SO are both in agreement that marriage is imminent, the best thing that you can probably work on is yourself, not your wedding. I liked your work out suggestion.
Other things that make you the most independently appealing individual (first and foremost to yourself) in the world will go further to make your wedding really special than having a killer inspiration board 3 years out.
It often seems to me that proceeding with wedding planning w/o having your SO on board with you can make the relationship feel out of sync…the waiters get more impatient and the would-be proposers feel pressure, like their not measuring up, or like they’re not in the same place.
Post # 6
@Melini I couldn’t agree more, but I’m not talking about things to do with the wedding per se but more, inspiration, ideas, things to keep you occupied.
We plan for college, for getting pregnant, even for vacations, so why not plan for engagement?
I’d love to say that my engagement will come out of/has come out of the blue and in the throws of giddly romance but it hasn’t. It’s come from natural progression about where we both see our lives going. Don’t get me wrong the love and the romance is absolutely still there, but after 3 years you start getting more open about the future. My engagement is certainly imminent, the ring is somewhere (hidden!) and he’s just waiting for his moment.
PrettySedity How on earth have you kept yourself from going loopy these last few weeks!! You’re better than me!
GwenvonD: We’ll be tcc straight away too, so that’s something in the back of my mind also!
Post # 7
@WaitingweddingBE: I’m going nuts with being excited.
BUT, the one thing that I find that helps is focusing on what’s going to happen AFTER the wedding. Save money for a house/kids, take a trip you’ve always wanted to go on. Get in shape! This sounds silly, but sharpen your cooking skillz. It’s nice to feel like Susie Homemaker once in a while.
Post # 8
@WaitingweddingBE: This is great! I have about 6 months left of waiting… and it’s driving me nuts!
Things I’m doing:
1. Reading- I LOVE to read. So I’m trying to occupy my time (and thoughts) with reading more.
2. My Nails- I’m getting really into giving myself mani-pedis 🙂 Plus, my nails will look great when the time comes for pictures!
3. Saving Money- I’m really focusing on my finances and realizing that I do live at home, so I’m saving for the amount I’ll have to spend based on an actual mortgage payment. I’m using Mint.com! It’s been helping me budget and there is an iPhone app for it.
4. My Job- It takes up a lot of my time anyway!
6. Working out!- You all have inspired me to get back on that treadmill again… 😉 Starting today!
5. Being Grateful- That I’m in a loving relationship with a really wonderful man.
Post # 9
Start saving money – Things will most likely be more expensive than you imagine.
Start thinking about a wedding date/theme/color – People will ask you about this the second you are engaged.
Work out – Because this is always a good thing to do.
Prepare for MARRIAGE – That is why you are having a wedding in the first place, right? 😉 Learn about fair fighting, clear communication. Talk to your boyfriend about your and his plans, values, and views. You don’t want to find out post-wedding that he wants you staying home, hand-washing cloth diapers asap, while you never want kids and are working towards a career as district attorney.
Post # 10
@GwenvonD: I too have a computer folder full of wonderful wedding ideas! It contains a number of pictures of almost everything wedding-related; invitations, Save-The-Date Cards, BM dresses, cakes, centerpieces, table runners, etc. A friend of mine got married a little over a year ago and was a bit overwhelmed by all of the choices that are out there. I’m very much a planner, and I enjoy finding ideas online!
Post # 11
The big three for me are: saving money, losing weight/getting in shape, and going to therapy.
Not couples therapy, but individual. SO and I decided that before we get engaged, we want to each be at our best and feel completely 100% confident in our own lives. We’re both going through really stressful times right now at work and grad school, so we’ve separately started going to therapy. It’s been really helpful to me in learning how to better handle stress and my emotions. I think I’ll be REALLY grateful we did this once planning is in full swing. 🙂
Post # 12
@GwenvonD: I have a folder, which in it contains more folders and in some of them are even more folders!!!!!
Post # 13
I do the folder thing, too! Glad to know it’s a pretty normal thing for us waiting gals. I’m also trying to eat healthful meals and get enough rest so I don’t look like a zombie with a sparkly on it when the time finally comes. Oh, and I’ve already started growing my hair out too…made it to the shoulders, now working on armpit length haha.