Post # 1
I’ve often heard no one regrets having children, but have also heard peers say they wish they would have… before starting a family.
For a long time, I thought for sure I would be CBC, but recently had an epiphany and we are talking about starting our own family (eeeee!!). While we have a few things to cross off our bucket list before actually TTC, I would love to hear from you as to what your “to-dos” were/are before having children. Ours involve some more traveling, finishing off student debt (SOOOOOOO close!!), and some minor home improvements. Hopefully we can knock 2 out of three of those off the list by the end of the year and have a big long baby-making vacation 😀
This topic was modified 4 years, 6 months ago by Brook10.
Post # 3
Travel. Travel. Travel. We did this and I have no regrets (I’m 13 weeks pregnant) especially when wistful friends who are very happy with their kids tell us how difficult taking trips are and how these wished they had thought a little more about which trips to take before the kids came along.
What we did was make a rough list of all the things we’d like to do..sort of a pseudo bucket list and we tried to determine what we should do before kids and what can wait until after – everyone is different so if you have family/friends in a certain area you want to visit, it might actually be easier to go when you have a toddler if they’d offer to babysit etc. Our big ones were multi-day hikes, music festivals, southeast asia and south america, an adults only all-inclusive. I should add that we also mad a conscious effort to make sure our finances were in order and making sure any home projects were on schedule to be completed before the peanut arrives. Good luck 🙂
Post # 4
Travel and SLEEP, after kids you will never sleep the same…
Post # 5
I hear a lot of mothers talk about wishing they had rocked their hot bodies more before it was ‘changed’ by childbirth. So many sexy little outfits they didn’t wear out dancing enough, high heels that are no longer applicable to their lives.
Post # 6
Brook10: I would say travel too! Obviously we will want to take family vacations, but not the same :p
So, in the few years before we are ready to TCC, we intend to save up and travel the world in a way that we cannot once we have kids (e.g. backpacking through South America, romantic trip to Europe, etc.). Hopefully money/work don’t get in the way of these plans…
Post # 7
I had my son at 21 and I was still in university. I graduated within a year after having him, and wen on to get my CPA, but I still wish I had done more education before having him. Could have got a PHd or something…
Post # 8
Backpack and climb mountains. The top thing/requirement on my pre-baby bucket list is to do the Everest Base Camp treck in Nepal -which we plan to do in the fall. I also wanted to do some mountaineering and backpacking in Chile and Argentina and I knocked that off last year. I’d like to do some climbing out in the Cascades as well, but I’m not sure I’ll have time for that.
Post # 9
We have some seriously ambitious bees here! Thanks for the responses, and sorry it took so long to respond. I love the creative trips you mentioned, def things to think about. Thanks again, Bees!!
Post # 10
No regrets. I like bringing my children to my adventures. Travel? Sure! I travelled with my 5YO back then to a remote island in Asia–10 hour flights, connecting flights to a small island.
It will only be difficult if you perceive it to be. I see it as a challenge. Until now, she still talks about that island.
Post # 11
swirlyclover86: that is awesome!! You are a super mom. Haha, all we got as kids were road trips to visit family in a small town a hour away. I’m definitely not opposed to travel with kids. Thanks for the response!
Post # 12
- Wedding: December 2014 - Catal Restaurant
Travel. My daughter is not a huge people person so we dont think she will be ready to go on a plane until she is 5. Also, finding someone to watch her so we can go on vacation for a week is a pain in the butt.
Someone else already mentioned it, but sleep. I havent slept the same in years. Im always up checking and making sure she is ok. Making sure the house isn’t burning down and there are no burglars. Lol. Sounds silly, but it’s true.
Post # 13
yupmarried: YEAH!!!! Not that I dress like a whore by any means…. but I have no need to wear high heels any longer and I live most of the time in yoga pants and sneakers.
Post # 14
Brook10: definitely travel!!!! We wanted to do one more big trip and we had agreed to start TTC while on the trip, so we are having an anniversary baby!!!
Post # 15
- Wedding: May 2015 - backyard wedding!!
Travel and enjo each other! I had my son at age 30- lots of time to go on trips- so now I’m not regretting anything! (Course marrying his father was questionable! but then I wouldn’t have my son