(Closed) Things I should have done before having kids..

posted 5 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
1039 posts
Bumble bee

Travel. Travel. Travel. We did this and I have no regrets (I’m 13 weeks pregnant) especially when wistful friends who are very happy with their kids tell us how difficult taking trips are and how these wished they had thought a little more about which trips to take before the kids came along.

What we did was make a rough list of all the things we’d like to do..sort of a pseudo bucket list and we tried to determine what we should do before kids and what can wait until after – everyone is different so if you have family/friends in a certain area you want to visit, it might actually be easier to go when you have a toddler if they’d offer to babysit etc. Our big ones were multi-day hikes, music festivals, southeast asia and south america, an adults only all-inclusive. I should add that we also mad a conscious effort to make sure our finances were in order and making sure any home projects were on schedule to be completed before the peanut arrives. Good luck 🙂

Post # 4
509 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Travel and SLEEP, after kids you will never sleep the same…

Post # 5
1796 posts
Buzzing bee

I hear a lot of mothers talk about wishing they had rocked their hot bodies more before it was ‘changed’ by childbirth. So many sexy little outfits they didn’t wear out dancing enough, high heels that are no longer applicable to their lives.

Post # 6
73 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Brook10:  I would say travel too! Obviously we will want to take family vacations, but not the same :p

So, in the few years before we are ready to TCC, we intend to save up and travel the world in a way that we cannot once we have kids (e.g. backpacking through South America, romantic trip to Europe, etc.). Hopefully money/work don’t get in the way of these plans…

Post # 7
4643 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I had my son at 21 and I was still in university. I graduated within a year after having him, and wen on to get my CPA, but I still wish I had done more education before having him. Could have got a PHd or something…

Post # 8
2705 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Backpack and climb mountains.  The top thing/requirement on my pre-baby bucket list is to do the Everest Base Camp treck in Nepal -which we plan to do in the fall.  I also wanted to do some mountaineering and backpacking in Chile and Argentina and I knocked that off last year.  I’d like to do some climbing out in the Cascades as well, but I’m not sure I’ll have time for that.

Post # 10
1167 posts
Bumble bee

No regrets.  I like bringing my children to my adventures.  Travel?  Sure!  I travelled with my 5YO back then to a remote island in Asia–10 hour flights, connecting flights to a small island. 

It will only be difficult if you perceive it to be.  I see it as a challenge.  Until now, she still talks about that island. 

Post # 12
778 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014 - Catal Restaurant

Travel. My daughter is not a huge people person so we dont think she will be ready to go on a plane until she is 5.  Also, finding someone to watch her so we can go on vacation for a week is a pain in the butt.

Someone else already mentioned it, but sleep. I havent slept the same in years. Im always up checking and making sure she is ok. Making sure the house isn’t burning down and there are no burglars. Lol. Sounds silly, but it’s true.

Post # 13
1218 posts
Bumble bee

yupmarried:  YEAH!!!! Not that I dress like a whore by any means…. but I have no need to wear high heels any longer and I live most of the time in yoga pants and sneakers.


Post # 14
6524 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

Brook10:  definitely travel!!!! We wanted to do one more big trip and we had agreed to start TTC while on the trip, so we are having an anniversary baby!!! 

Post # 15
158 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - backyard wedding!!

Travel and enjo each other! I had my son at age 30- lots of time to go on trips- so now I’m not regretting anything! (Course marrying his father was questionable! but then I wouldn’t have my son

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