(Closed) Things Men Don’t Know About Weddings

posted 11 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 62
147 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I HAVE A GOOD ONE!!! I forgot about this until i saw people posting about their FI’s not understanding Save the Dates…


well how about this: while i am deciding which invitations to order and figure out the wording for the invitations, Fiance says: “Why not just announce it in our Facebook status and people who want to come will message us?”  !!!!!!!!!!!

Post # 63
41 posts
  • Wedding: February 2011

Ugh, glad I am not the only one.  So issues we have had:

What do you mean there are two rings?- Didn’t understand the enagement ring, and wedding band concept (I cleared this up before we got engaged)

He refuses to take part in the registry, so I just registered for what I like.  He thinks it is rude to let people know what we want because it looks like we are asking for gifts.

Apparently he is never going to give me a list of family and friends to invite, so his sister is going to give me family, guess only his Best Man will get invited…

Doesn’t want to waste money on a photographer.  This is OK, cause we are totally broke, but I am going to have his sister take pics of me getting ready and heading down to our cermony location etc.., plus I have a friend who is a photographer who is expected to come, and see if she can work out a deal for just a few formal shots.

We are not really having a reception, just having a small party in a nice hotel suite afterwards, but he doesn’t get that this still needs some planning, and food, drinks, etc.. even if not over the top.

It makes me crazy, because we are keeping it very, very, basic, inexpensive, and low key, but there still needs to be some level of organization.  Plus, I have reminded him the cost of the avg wedding is like $22,000 and ours is under $5,000 including our travel! 

I had this conversation with his sister yesterday, and she assured me it was men, not me.  I told her I thought, maybe he just didn’t want to marry me.  :o(

So it is nice to see other guys are a little clueless, although, I still think mine is the most clueless!

Post # 64
39 posts
  • Wedding: March 2011

let’s see first I had to explain what a wedding registry was…then he wanted to “register” at Home Depot and Sears (for TOOLS) even though we really need things like cups, plates, toaster, microwave…basically a whole kitchen, bathroom, bedroom… Everything lol

BUT he was actually happy when I told him my dress only cost $1000. I think it was all the Say yes to the Dress he watched with me….he thought $1000 was a Really good deal HEHEHE.

Post # 65
775 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I think the one that really gets me over my FH is that he doesn’t seem to understand why you have to set your menu this early.  He thinks you can just pick a caterer and then the week before the wedding tell him what you want to eat. 

He also wants to put our registry on the invites and thinks that having and RSVP card is stupid and we should just have people call or email if they plan on coming to the wedding. 

Post # 66
1668 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

bahahaha i love this!!!!!!!!!!!! FH is excited about the registry – he keeps asking what we’ll register for though since “we already have everything”. we have plates and towels, i’m sure we’ll find something else.

he was also convinced that we could find a venue for $250-500 and that for 3 months I simply just hadn’t looked hard enough. umm… yeah. Mean price here is $2500, sweetie.

we’re getting married at my church but since he lives in another state he wont be with me the first time i meet with the priest. he says “i don’t mind meeting him at some point”. uhh… good, because we’ll have to do it a lot and do pre-cana and engagement encounter stuff. glad you’re okay with eventually meeting him.

i haven’t even mentioned photographer prices because i know he’ll fall over.

he also wants to send out the invites like 8 months before the wedding. When I told him that’s what Save the Dates are for his response was “………I don’t know what you just said.”

Post # 67
1595 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@effinjess: Oh my stars, my Fiance thought that too…

Post # 68
257 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Why are they so dumb?????

When my Fiance learned what a registry was…
Him: You know, when we go and register at Macy’s, we should pick out things that we really need.
Me: Great Idea babe.

At Michael’s Craft store:
Him: What are those baskets for??
Me: They are Toiletry Baskets for the restrooms at the Reception.
Him: Why do we have to spend money at that?  Call the hotel and ask if they provide do it.  I think they do. 
Me: Trust me, they don’t.  We should provide it for our guests.
Him: How do you know?  Just call and ask the hotel.
Me: I’m not going to embarrass myself and ask our wedding coordinator a stupid question that I already know the answer to.

Post # 69
7 posts
  • Wedding: August 2011

wow. I guess I am super lucky. My Fiance has always been money conscious and before we started talking about anything we made a budget with reccomended numbers from a website which of course has been edited since, but he has always known that things related to the wedding will cost a lot.

Although when I started talking about engagement photos he had no clue what I was talking about and why we had to get our pictures taken. He seriously thought I was making it up until I showed him websites and photos of my cousins. He also STILL doesn’t believe me that the bride and groom exchange gifts on the wedding day. I’m gonna have to get his mom to talk to him about that one. lol

Post # 70
62 posts
Worker bee

@stargal34: he thought a wedding cake was suppose to have our names on it (like a birthday cake) and that people were suppose to sing to us (like happy wedding instead of happy birthday) LOL.. seriously. not. making. this. up.

Oh my god this TOTALLY made my day……  I love this man – marry him! 

Not THIS finance but my EX-fiance (who I was too SMART to marry – I called it off a few months before the wedding) actually said “you get TWO rings?” after we got engaged and I said I still needed to order a wedding band.  He was like “No WAY – you already HAVE a ring – you only get ONE!  What do you need TWO rings for????”  Apparantly he’d never noticed that when people get MARRIED they exchange RINGS (he must have thought the groom gave the bride her ENGAGEMENT ring all over again during the wedding!!!!)  What a doofus……

In STARK comparison, my wonderful fiance NOW watches “SYTTD” with me and actually SAID during one episode (to the TV no less) “you idiot, you can’t get a nice dress for under $2,000!”  He was yelling at some cheap mom or fiance or someone who didn’t want to spend a lot of money….. sigh.  I got a good one! 

Post # 71
203 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011 - Gardens of the World

lol. Great thread! FH is being pretty good about everything through the planning process, but like many of your fiances he really took awhile to get why everything has to be planned in advance.

My dad had that problems too, he KEEPS on saying to me: “why are you doing so much for the wedding now? It is just over 2 months away…you could have kept it simple and casual you know.” Well sorry dad, but if i want it to be simple and casual then i have to do lots of planning to enable that simplicity!

My brother has made the two mist hilarious comments during the planning. When I told him my dress was ivory he looked horrified and said “you’re wearing black to your wedding????” He got ivory confused with ebony….

And then he got confused over the term “bridal party.” He asked- “am i invited?” (he is a groomsman). He though bridal party meant a party for the bride all by her lonesome…Ha. men.

Post # 72
81 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

haaaaaaaaaaaahahahaha i cracked up when i read that one about wanting to register at home depot for tools LOL! My FI’s been surprisingly really good about most of it. I gotta say though he has NO idea how much work is going into this thing. It was a funny moment for me when i was picking photographers though and had asked for his input. we were looking at portfolios online and it went like this:

me: so which of these do you like babe? Ive narrowed it down to two.

him: Well, this dude just LOOks like a lot a fun. I mean, he looks like a cool dude. Plus his facebook has the funniest profile pictures on it. Have you seen them?

me: babe, i really need you to focus more on the photographs they have in their portfolios NOT on how funny their personal pictures of themselves are.

Post # 73
4 posts
  • Wedding: March 2011

@Miss Tattoo: This is sooo funny. I laughed so hard I was in tears!!! great post

Post # 74
55 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

This one’s not about my fiance, but a story I heard about friends of a friend:

(Phone conversation a week before the wedding, or something ridiculous like that)

Her: Did you remember to get the wedding band?

Him: We’re having a DJ!

Her: No, the wedding band!

Him: We decided on a DJ!

True story. He didn’t know the two ring thing… the week before the wedding. 

Post # 75
158 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I, too, had a fiance who thought we were “basically done” with the wedding planning after booking the church and reception hall.  hahahahahahahaha

Post # 76
9 posts
  • Wedding: June 2011

This thread had be cracking up!!

I have no idea how they know so little.  My Fiance thinks I magically know all of this because he thinks that I have been to/in a billion weddings.  Not the case. 

He claims he has never ever heard of having a Grooms Cake.  Says he didn’t know such a thing existed! 

He also thought we could just hand out some of our save-the-dates and wedding invitations.  Uhm…no.

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