(Closed) Things NOT to say to a bride one week before her wedding

posted 8 years ago in October 2013
Post # 62
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653 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@O.My.Heart:  I got ‘It’s not too late to change your mind’

Geeze, I got that from my mom too.  

Post # 63
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@CARA1978:  I got it from my Mother-In-Law :/, lol.

Post # 64
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823 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

“I think your relationship is emotionally abusive” said by Maid/Matron of Honor (who then spread rumours about us). Needless to say she’s not a friend anymore!

Post # 65
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782 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

If one more person asks me if I am nervous than I will flip a lid. NO I AM NOT NERVOUS, this is one of the few things I know is right and that I am completely sure about!

“Are there any other dinner options for the rehearsal dinner?” I gave you 8 options to choose from…don’t be difficult!

“Do I really NEED to come to the rehearsal?” YES. 

Post # 66
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Oooh! just thought of another one, not exactly the sme thing but somthing co-workers said to me when they found out I was engaged 

“oh… well we always wanted you for our son…” followed by “well… until you’re married there’s still a chance for him!” 

 

what?!?! NO. no. I worked with him too and he’s a nice guy and liked me but no.

Fiance and I have been together for 3.5 years, get over it.

Post # 67
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I asked everyone to avoid telling me what the weather was going to be like. 

I didn’t want to know if it was going to rain because there was nothing I could do about it!

A bridesmaid, three days before the wedding blurted out that there was a 80% chance of rain.  I almost ripped her head off!

It ended up snowing instead….which I do kind of wish someone had warned me about…haha!

Post # 68
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Honey Beekeeper

I would not let what amounts to small talk, ie, are you excited, are you nervous etc.  get to you and would not  take it literally.   These things are trite and clichèd but people are really just looking to connect with you. 

Thing NOT  say to a bride one week before her wedding:

“I’m looking for my estranged husband and someone told me to talk to you!” 

Post # 69
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2013

“I hope you can change your name with the government shut down”….. I just stared at her.

Post # 70
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940 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rosehill Community Center

“Let me know how I can help!” – I appreciate it, but it would have taken so long to explain some things when I could just do them myself!  I ended up writing a list and passing it off so I didn’t have to deal with this question.

“It’s not too late!” – really?  I’m marrying the man I love and you’re telling me I can still back out?  WTF?

“Are you ready?” – my answer was always “I’m ready for all the planning to be over!” but it was obnoxious to hear over and over and over…  What was I supposed to do with a week left?

“You’re so calm!” and then when I was frustrated because she wasn’t understanding me and started to cry because I was uncomfortable and annoyed “Oh!  There it is, I knew you couldn’t be that calm!” – Is it a requirement for brides to be freaking out stressed before their wedding?  I always cry when frustrated like that, it had nothing to do with wedding stress, more to do with your incompetence!  I was pretty zen and chill leading up to the wedding because there wasn’t much more I could do, it would happen how it would happen, and I trusted the vendors to make it work.  

My mom: “Have you thought about what to do if it rains?” – It’s August.  Not likely.  But yes, I am a bride, and have considered the options.  I’m not worried.

Post # 71
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222 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

“Just relax”  (I’m not meaning to be stressed… I’m getting married, it’s what happens!)

Post # 73
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2013

The worst I had came from my best friend. My maid of honor who happens to be my husbands sister. It was three days before the wedding. I had said that I didnt want them to buy jewellery as I was undecided if I wanted them to wear any for ceremony/photographs due to the style of dresses they had. She text me asking if I had bought them any and I tried to explain why they didnt have any. She went onto a rant saying I had put no thought into the bridesmaids, her and one other, even though I had spent well over £500 on their dresses, accommodation the night before the wedding, hair accessories, shoes, bridesmaid gifts and hand written thank you letters. The worst thing I could have heard was ‘I dont think we can or will be friends after this wedding’. And i hate the stupid dress too. I was devestated. We sorted everything out and are back to normal now but at the time I couldnt believe it. She had just given birth so her hormones were haywire and she apologised profusely but that was sooooo not what I wanted to hear! Lol little did she know that in addition to their thank you gifts I had bought them stunning earrings to wear that I wanted to be a surprise……

Post # 74
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Bumble Beekeeper

Don’t call her fat! Other than that, nothing else would bother me.

Post # 75
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1793 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Got a postcard in the mail yesterday, “your Fiance has an active warrant out for his arrest.” 

 

Uhm, WTF!?!? Come to find out my Fiance thought he had gotten a warning ticket about changing his name on his drivers license. Nope, it was a real Ticket!!! $450 later it was all cleared up but oh my gosh I flipped my lid lol! 

Post # 76
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

My coworkers are sweet and really mean well but seriously this is what I have been getting lately from several of them…

 

“1 month! are you excited?!”

Same people….

“3 weeks! are you excited?!”

Same people….

“12 more days! Are you excited?!”

Same people….

“10 more days! Are you excited?!”

Same people…..

“8 more days! Are you excited?!”

I always say yes. I swear that when its down to 2-3 days I’m going to blindside them with a no just for the shock value!

 

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