(Closed) Things not to say to a home buyer who just lost their dream home.

posted 7 years ago in Home
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

It will get better – and it does fucking suck …but remember that you are going to find another house you love and you will love it just as much if not more , or you wont buy it 🙂 

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

My experience is it does suck a lot! We put in offers on 2 other houses before we got ours. Good luck! I definitly know the feeling.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

While Darling Husband and I have bought other houses by ourselves, this was our first house together.  House #1–fell through on inspection.  House needed at least 30K of foundation work.  Seller offered to drop price by 15K–ummm….no.  House #2 appraised for 20K less than purchase price.  Seller couldn’t do it.  House #3 also appraised for a lot less than purchase price.  Sellers screwed around for 2 months.  I would have walked but Darling Husband loved it. I hate this house.  finally sellers prayed about it and Jesus told them to sell it.  Before it went into foreclosure.

Moral of the story–yes it sucks but there is definitely a better house out there for you.  And this is from an experienced home owner.  If you didn’t offer enough money, it wasn’t worth it to you.  And you were probably right.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’m sorry but I’m sure they were just trying to be positive about it. Home buying is a very difficult process.  I’ve never submitted an offer before (we have been pre-approved twice at two different times)  but I know from friends how difficult it is. I know it probably does suck and you are probably really bummed out about it.  If I heard my friend didn’t get the house, I would rather be positive than negative about it.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

It does suck, believe me. Fiance and I finally got the third house we bid on, we didn’t offer enough on the first (ended up selling a year later for less than we offered) and we got into a bidding war on the second and let it fall through on purpose.  Not getting the first house really, really sucked, but, as we were driving back from looking at our house, I turned to Fiance and told him that we were getting this one, even if we had to pay 5k over the asking price and break some legs.  Being willing to pay more was what made me realize this was the right house and that the others weren’t. Even though it’s not what you want to hear, there is a better one out there for you.

Post # 9
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Yeah, it sucks.  We got the (sort of) second house we put an offer on.  The first house we put an offer on, was already after they accepted another offer, but we were hoping they’d reject any negotiations that might have come up with inspections and just take ours instead.  (They didnt though, tough luck for them, cause we would have paid 30k more than the offer they accepted) We fell in love with two houses, and was prepared to put in an offer – we saw the house at night after work, and then was going to draw up paper work the next morning, BUT the jerks accepted offers the night before, just hours after we saw the house.  We didnt even get the CHANCE to bid on our “dream” house.  But the one we did get, was actually better than the first two… though we also ended up upping the budget by 10%

Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m sure you’re dissapointed but what exactly were you expecting these people to say? To be honest, I probably would have said some of the exact same things. Guess it would have warranted a slap. 

Post # 12
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

@aandmklover: I guess I’m just trying to figure out how “that just means there’s a better one out there” or “it was the first time you made an offer” are that terribly bad. Should these people have just stared at you blankely after you told them the news? I think you’re overreacting a bit. If someone said “the house was a piece of shit anyway” then I could see you being upset but “that fucking sucks” is hardly anything to get pissed over. 

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

It sucks that you missed out on your dream home! I work in real estate and I can tell you that clients often put in several offers before they secure their home. It’s just the reality of buying a house and the particular market. 

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

It’s just like when people break up! “There is someone better out there!” “He was a jerk anyway” etc

They are just trying to make you feel better. 🙂 

Post # 15
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Buzzing Beekeeper

No one can ever say the right thing, ever, no matter what, which is why I don’t talk to people IRL anymore.

 

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@KatyElle: LOL … real live people are overrated anyway..

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