(Closed) Things on The Bee that just drive you bananas

posted 9 years ago in Weddingbee
Post # 16
Member
601 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I think there should be a time limit for the classifieds section. If it hasn’t sold in a certain amount of time it should be deleted and the seller should have the choice to relist it.

 

Post # 18
Member
7693 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I agree with all the PPs…especially about posts being time sensitive instead of most commented on. I feel like it just makes more sense. I hate seeing a post from a year ago or even several months ago. Especially if its one asking for advice regarding a wedding that has, at this point, already passed. I also hate not being able to delete posts – at any time. Not just a post on someone else’s page but a post that you created yourself! Seems silly that you have to contact an administrator any time you want something deleted!

Post # 19
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3670 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I agree that one of the things that annoys me the most is when someone asks for opinions then gets upset with everyone/overly defensive and declares that they’re leaving.  If you don’t like what everyone said, don’t follow their advice, just know that you asked and you got honest opinions.

 

On a much smaller scale, it somewhat frustrates me when someone includes details in their original post and another person’s only comments are to ask questions that were answered in the original post (I know in longer posts it’s easy to miss something but in shorter posts where it’s only a sentence or two is what I’m talking about).  

Post # 20
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6659 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

When I first joined it really annoyed me when I would start a thread to ask a question specific to my situation and more ‘senior’ posters would immediately reply with links to other similar threads and say something like “This has already been discussed” instead of actually answering my question. I haven’t seen this happen in a really long time, but every once in a while someone will do it.

It’s like, I know that topics and discussions get repeated on this site, but no two situations are exactly the same and maybe with time answers change anyway.

I also dislike when people are overly sensitive and combative if someone disagrees. Sometimes I see posters forget basic manners and go totally balistic on someone who just says “I think the purple looks better than the pink” or something like that. I think people should strive to be more accepting of others opinions, even if it’s the total opposite.

 

Post # 21
Member
1396 posts
Bumble bee

okay, this is really something pretty small/petty but it drives me insane. STOP APOLOGIZING FOR POSTING A LARGE PICTURE! Seriously! Every other picture says “sorry it’s so huge, I can’t resize it!” Listen up. We WANT the picture to be huge. Is it a close up of your ring? Great! We can see the detail! Is it your dress? Awesome! We can see all of it and see detail. This just drives me up a wall because I want to ask each person who says it, “What, do you think I want to see a thumbnail here?” I’m sure that the need to feel like we shouldn’t post giant, flashy photos is some deep-seeded Puritan teaching but let’s all accept the fact that we live in a world of 24 inch computer monitors and larger-than life pictures are totally fine. Cause honestly, if I can’t see the details very well, I’m probably going to ask for additional pictures anyway!

Okay, I’m done.

Post # 22
Member
7693 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

@artichokey: LOL its true and I think I am guilty of this. I think I have said it because the picture is GIANT and I didnt realize until the picture actually posted. I wouldnt want it to be thumbnail size, but I also dont want it so big that it is chopped up into different parts. I am mostly on the bee at work and it is a smaller screen so if it is a large picture I might only be able to see the first 2/3 of it rather than the whole thing. But I know what you are saying!

Post # 23
Member
1184 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@artichokey: ha, this just made me laugh out loud. i so agree!

i also find it annoying when people stumble upon a months-old thread and answer the OP’s question like they might still be waiting for an answer. if someone asked which pair of shoes they should choose 6 months ago, it’s probably a little late to be giving your feedback.

Post # 24
Member
7081 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

@moderndaisy:  That’s good to know.  I always post links to previous threads so that people can get ideas that weren’t mentioned in the thread that they have going.  I was doing it to be helpful not meaning that they should do a search and not post their question.

For example, lately I’ve seen a bunch of posts from board bees wanting unique ideas for ring pillows.  They get a few suggestions and then the thread starts dying… BUT, there are some older threads that are quite in depth about unique ring pillow ideas.  In fact, there was one that someone linked for me that was before my time, but I ended up using as my inspiration.

Post # 25
Member
165 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

1. Narrow-mindedness. Try and try as everyone may, there are just some people who (unfortunately) cannot and will not see beyond the norms of their own social groups, regional area, family tradition, etc. and realize the world is a big, wide place with a great number of ideas. We don’t all “have” to do the same thing; and just because you are not familiar with a certain practice does not mean it’s bad, wrong, “tacky”, or poor etiquette.

2. Passive aggressively rude comments to questions: the classic – “No offense, but that’s really “tacky”/ugly”… “Personally, I would never do it and think it’s “tacky” but you can do what you want.” Prefacing a rude comment with “no offense” doesn’t make it less rude, and burying offensive comments into your “personal opinion” doesn’t make it less insensitive.

3. THE WORD TACKY.

4. I agree with @Goodie – unfortunately, sometimes it seems the posters with a high count are “the cool kids in school” who can do no wrong. It’s an online forum, people.

Post # 26
Member
4160 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I don’t like it when some bees post one word answers on almost every post.  Maybe they really always have something to say, but it makes me feel like they are just trying to increase their status.

Post # 27
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1810 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

@Miss Bubbles: Ah! I agree- I hate the word “tacky.” The word “tacky” is tacky. lol

Also, I really dislike the etiquette police. Seriously. Like if you choose to do something that goes against what etiquette says you should do, then you’re a selfish freaking brat who only cares about yourself… except that’s absolutely absurd. I have a mind that I am capable of using to make my OWN decisions instead of blindly following what etiquette dictates.

Post # 28
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3148 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I wish we could delete posts. I have posted some stuff about family etc and in hindsight not the best idea…although they are anonomous it owuld be hard to find my name…my wedding pic (aka face) and connect it….

it keeps me up at night sometimes *laugh*

Post # 29
Member
2236 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Posts about touchy subjects that after they blow WAY out of proportion the OP says something along the lines of “OMG, I didn’t realize this would start such a controversy”.  Actually, unless you JUST started on the Bee, you should realize starting a thread about how you want a cash bar but your FMIL/FFIL says that is rude is going to start a huge discussion.  Or how you’re 16 and sick of people saying you’re too young to get married.  STOP STARTING THESE THREADS PEOPLE, THEY JUST END BADLY!

And trolls, lol, did anyone catch the post where a newbee went nutso on one of the hostesses and swore up a storm???

Post # 30
Member
1810 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

@MandaMack: No, I didn’t see that post! That’s crazy.

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