(Closed) Things people automatically assume when you announce your engagement

posted 6 years ago in Engagement
Post # 17
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Sugar bee

Lol some people!

 

When Fiance called his dad & told him we were engaged he asked if there was a surprise baby on the way. Nooooo, we just want to get married!?

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Post # 18
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Worker bee

That I’ll be changing my name.

That any name change would be one-sided.

That we’ll be having kids (we’ve had a few “you know what comes next…” comments).

That we’ll have pre-parties (bridal shower, bachelor, etc).

That I’ll wear white. 

That we’ll have a wedding party.

That we will incorporate all the wedding traditions. 

That the planning will be unequal between my partner and I. 

That my partner is uninterested in wedding planning (he cares more than I do!)

There are probably more that I’m forgetting, there have been a lot so far and it’s only been a month!

Post # 20
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

The one we got the most was what’s the date.  Well we got engaged 20 minutes ago… so we have not had that discussion.  Almost everyone asked that so do most have a date set before getting engaged?

Post # 22
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

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trinibride0417:  DH’s parents assumed that we must not be that serious about each other. Um, what?? They assumed that we got engaged solely so that we could claim to be deeply in love but were doing it for show since we were on the younger side. That because we didn’t wait to get engaged, we must not really be in love. DH was 24 when we got married. Guess whose son no longer has a relationship with his parents?

Post # 24
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

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trinibride0417:  Hahaha I love this thread! People thought they were invited to our wedding even though we hadn’t spoken in years, I got lots of jokes about being pregnant—ESPECIALLY when I got the stomach flu a few weeks ago….do not mention being nauseated while engaged because people will assume you are pregnant! Haha. Another one that was fun was–“so have you picked a date for the wedding?” the day we told them we were engaged…

Post # 25
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

That they’ll be invited to the wedding. I had 60 people at my wedding, 17 of which I invited, 43 of which my husband invited. DH has a very large family, so there were family members of his that were not invited, and we also had quite a few friends that did not make the list. One of our (former) friends berated both of us saying that we had no common decency and questioned our character because she was not invited.

Post # 26
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

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trinibride0417:   I had quite a few work people think they were invited.   My theory is that if you are not immediate family or a close friend, don’t assume your invited.  If I’m not inviting you over to hang out, why would I invite you to share in the most important day of my life?  So annoying!

Post # 27
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

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trinibride0417:  That I was pregnant.  Not that we had been dating for over 5 years and planned to get married at some point. Nope, that there was a little baby in the making. We had also just turned 22, so age could have played a part.

Also, when we moved the wedding up an entire year, the pregnancy assumptions EXPLODED!  Seriously, I have never had so many people hint that I was pregnanct than during those few weeks. 

We got married, moved, and seriously suprised almost everyone when there was no bouncing baby a few months later. I said I wasn’t. 

Post # 28
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

That because we got engaged in Nov 2015 and wanted to be married in Oct 2016 that there must be some sort of reason for our “rush”. Like, thats almost a year, how is this a rush?

Most of our friends also assumed even after we get married we will wait a few years to have kids. They constantly say this! “Oh well, you’ll have a few years before you start thinking about kids so we can go ahead and plan doing XYZ” Uh, when were you involved in our family planning process?

Also, every assumed I wouldn’t wear white. Even my Fiance.

Post # 29
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

Like other bees have said, when people assume they’re invited! Like ALL of my coworkers…sorry we’re having only 120 people and I’m not that close with you!

Oh, and when people don’t know anything about budget and start suggesting their “favourite photographer” that they’ve found that is $12,000….ya no. Start planning a wedding and then see if you can afford a photographer that expensive! Arg!

Post # 30
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

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kwbride2015:  Yes!! We literally called our families to tell them we were engaged and everyone goes “WHEN IS THE WEDDING” like ok we got engaged 5 minutes ago hold your horses

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