(Closed) Things people automatically assume when you announce your engagement

posted 6 years ago in Engagement
Post # 31
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8516 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

That I want a wedding.

I know, can’t fault them for assuming that. But I really don’t want anything to do with a wedding. The marriage, sure. A wedding, nope.

Post # 33
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203 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

That I want you to ask me how wedding planning is going every time you see me:

Them:  “Hey so how’s wedding planning going?”

Me:  “The same as it was yesterday when you asked me the exact same f*cking question.”

At least this is how I imagine I would like it to go in my head.  LMAO

Others:

That I want a engagement party.

That I want a bridal shower.

That I want a bachelorette party.

 

 

Post # 34
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203 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

And yes I got the same thing about when is the date when we got engaged.

12/25/15, 10:00AM:  got engaged

12/25/15, 1:00PM:  “when is the date?”

Post # 35
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256 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

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trinibride0417:  I shared my engagement with others after the weekend it happened, so all my close friends and family menbers already knew.

First reaction I got was a message from an acquaintance: “YES!ANOTHER BACH PARTY TO GO TO!” – by someone who wasn’t even on my radar to be invited to the wedding or anything associated with it. People can be incredibly presumptious. It’s amusing.

Post # 36
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3258 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

That we should have a grand wedding, because we “did it right” as in graduated college first and don’t have kids

That I would wear white to my grand wedding

That I’m pregnant (I’m 22)

That I pressured him (because I’m in school again so he makes more than I do)

That I would have a diamond

That I’d be taking his name (and upon learning we are combining, that again I am pressuring him with my feminist ways). Ugh.

That everyone we are related to or have encountered is invited 

That we are broke or pregnant because we are doing essentially a planned elopement with under 15 people

Post # 37
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

1.) That we would be having a wedding and inviting all these people…(we are doing it elopement style NO fancy wedding) and 2.) we would have a wedding party with bridesmaids and groomsmen and people even went as far as to guess who we’d pick. Nope. Not doing that either. 

Post # 38
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

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TwilightRarity:  everything about that arrangement is confusing but hey whatever floats your boat!

Post # 39
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41 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2016

I know the pain lol. My future mil assumed we were getting married in the Catholic Church, and when I brought up my divorce and the fact that they wouldn’t marry us, she suggested that I petition the Pope himself. And not to mention pay all the fees that come with an enullment in the church. She’s crazy lol. She wasn’t happy when we told her we were getting married at a living history museum instead, oh well! Hahahahaha 

Post # 40
Hostess
720 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

My Mother….

“OMG SO EXCITED!!! I LOVE YOU!”

“Thanks Mom love you too!”

“I have to ask….You arent pregnant are you?”

 *I finish my box of wine*

“No, Mom. Not pregnant”

 

That’s what happens when you’ve been together over 4 years, buy a house at year two, keep your relationship relitively private (including pre engagment convos) lol I still laugh about her saying that though. It’s now been over a year since I was engaged and still no baby! lol

 

Post # 41
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Blushing bee

That as soon as we got back from the trip we are when he proposed, we already had a date set. Literally, the DAY i got back to work after vacation, I had 3 separate people ask me if we set a date. Um, we’ve been engaged less than a week. Plus how would we have already booked a venue while not even in the country?? I know they were all excited for me, but jeeze let me just enjoy being engaged for a little while! Haha

Post # 42
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5360 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

That I was suddenly a girlie girl who had dreamed of every aspect of her wedding for years. Not 5 minutes after I told my family I was engaged my aunt was asking me what my dress and veil looked like. Um… they didn’t exist yet… how the hell would I know what they look like? 

I also got immediate “Yay! Now you’ll have babies!” from a LOT of people. My SIL was relentless. But the weirdest one was my cousin’s girlfriend. They’ve been dating since BEFORE I WAS BORN… we are talking over THIRTY years of DATING. They obviously have no intention of ever getting married and they never had kids. So why the hell was she the one to corner me for half an hour the night we announced our engagement telling me how of COURSE I HAVE TO have babies…at least one. I was trying to be nice about it but after literally half an hour of this nonsense “You must conform to the normal way things are done” bullshit I said “Mira quein habla!!” (Look who’s talking!!) My other cousin who had been listening in and rolling her eyes said “Lord! I was wondering when you’d finally break.”

Post # 43
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233 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

…. CHURCH! That’s what everyone assumed and had to explain to them we want an outdoor wedding. 

…. Their kids are invited, sorry but we’re not allowing kids 

 

Post # 44
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

That I was pregnant because we dated for so long before getting engaged. (7 years) 

That the hold-up on getting engaged was that one of us wasn’t ready to commit.  We waited because we wanted to be financially secure enough to afford the wedding and awesome honeymoon we wanted without going into any debt. 

That we obviously didn’t want children because we were 29 when we got married, and I’m no “spring chicken” anymore..

That they’re invited. 

That even though we aren’t religious, we’ll have a religious/Christian wedding to appease certain family members.  (In this case, they acted as though a non-religious wedding involved animal sacrificing or something!)

 

 

Post # 45
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754 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

When we told our immediate family about our egagement and are asked “What is your wedding date?”

WTF, we just got engaged less than 24 hours ago?!

That is my BIGGEST pet peeve when people announce their engagement, esp via social media, then people ask wedding date or start spouting off vendors…

 

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