(Closed) Things people with kids say to those without…

posted 6 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Well, given my most recent thread, it’s my child-free wedding!  I’ve had some people express to me that it’s not very nice to have a child-free wedding, but “we don’t expect you to understand yet” because “you’ll understand when you have children”.  Ummmm…sure.  The children that I don’t want and don’t intend to ever have?  Yeah.  I’ll totally understand.

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Well the “beginner” one always seems to be about the icky side of things…

WOMEN – Gosh, I could never see myself going thru hours of labour & excruciating pain…

“You’ll think differently WHEN you are pregnant, and about to have a child of your own”

MEN – Diapers, ick… no thank you

“You’ll think differently about all that when they are your own babies”

 

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think it also depends on your personality. I’m  not very maternal, and I have a fierce sense of independance…I certainly wouldn’t be the type who would bat an eye to leave my child at home for a night while I go out and have a good time. I’m certainly not the type to also not place an importance on taking care of myself, either…ie: I’m not going to stop going to the gym because I feel bad leaving the baby for an hour. Of this I’m sure because I know myself very well.

But, I just think that mainly people are more forgiving of public temper tantrums…childless people may think that their children will never do that…I think you get over that once you have kids of your own…

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper

-screaming children/babies in public, I know now that NO ONE wants that kid to stop screaming more than the mother

-bodily fluids, lol, Yeah. I’m not grossed out anymore.

-kids at weddings… Nope, I still don’t care about this one. I’d rather leave the kid at home.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Oh geeze, so many things…these are some that I’ve been told recently

  • I will never ever want to leave them with someone else, even to go on a date with my husband.
  • I will suddenly stop caring at all about myself or how I look, because my kids will be more important than anything else
  • Discipline has nothing to do with how kids behave

Yeah…I don’t really believe any of these things, guess time will tell!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

my ex used to say to me ‘when you have kids of your own you’ll understand… for almost everything. then when we had a baby that changed to when you have three kids you’ll understand …i could never win.  

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

“You’ll never understand until you have a kid of your own.”

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper

@bellasperanza:  Haha. It’s not that you stop caring how you look… it’s that you stop having the energy to do something about it.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I don’t believe anything they tell me because like stokieGal just pointed out, you can’t win. I also don’t believe anything they tell me because people who tell me such things obviously think they are superior to me in that they have children.

oh? Well don’t let me hear you bitch a single word related to having children. If you having children makes you better than me, I don’t want to hear anything about back pains and diaper woes and screaming kids etc. Why would I hear that from you? Children are awesome, aren’t they?

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 1993

“You’ll change your mind!”   hahahaha

 

 

 

Uhh thanks, but fuck no I won’t, pardon my French.

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

The prior posters have provided a good list so far.  Another one that I have had people say to me involved my attempts to have a beautiful home and furniture — that, once I had kids, I wouldn’t care what happens to my furniture.

Although, I still do not have any children of my own, when I married Darling Husband, I became an instant stepmom, and I definitely still care about my furniture, LOL. I’m always reiterating, “No food or beverages in the family room or living room. No, you cannot take food or sodas upstairs to your room.”  Also, when young children are visiting, I move lamps, cover my coffee table, and remove breakable items, etc. I definitely still care. 🙂

Post # 14
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3772 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’ve had people say to me, after I comment on why the heck someone would bring their infant to a late night movie…

“You don’t understand because you don’t have kids. I’m sure once you have children you’ll be bringing them too” 

Um no. because that is a particular parenting style that I do not plan on adopting. Not once did my parents take me or my brothers to the movies late at night. So why would I do it? 

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@Woodstock:  I ASKED THAT QUESTION TOO!! Who the heck brings an infant and a 4 month old to a midnight showing of The Dark Knight Rises? WHO?!

Sure as hell not me. I agree completely – why would I practice such terrible parenting?

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

@Brielle:  Your post made me think of this. 🙂

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