(Closed) Things seem to have gotten better AFTER getting married…..can anyone relate?

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Yep!! Ever since living together (a few months before the wedding) things have been WAY more natural for us. I think that when we didn’t live together, I felt more insecure and that led to bickering that was unnecessary. Small fights seem like way bigger deals when you go to bed alone and don’t see him again for a day or two! Plus when we live together, we can take care of each other better in the ways the other needs.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I’m not married yet, but this was the case for my brother. The whole wedding planning thing was really stressful for them and they fought a lot. Once it was over, they could just enjoy each other. 

Thank you for this post! 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

bearbear1:  We were together for 13 years before we got married, living together for 5 of those. Our relationship got better after getting married because I feel like I was hanging on to this resentment that we weren’t married considering EVERY single one of our mutual friends(who all met their partners in college) got married before us, even though we’d been together since high school. I am at peace with our decision to get married when we did, because looking back it was the right time for us. All that to say, now that we are married it’s like we are in this honeymoon phase and I love it! It’s just added this lightheartedness that I love.

Post # 6
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Busy bee

bearbear1:  I hope this will happen with me 🙂

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee

Yes! Three years married, five years together. Our relationship is definitely deeper and stronger as time goes on. 

 

 

 

 

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

I can relate to this. Things weren’t bad before but idk,something about being married has just made things better. We laugh even more, we communicate better, I’ve never been happier. Whenever people ask me how married life is I say it’s, “great’ but can’t tell them what’s great about it! We’ve only been married 3 months but I hope the rest is just like this. 

Post # 9
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

We’re not married yet (27 days!!) but I can say that going from living together to engaged made our relationship WAY better. We both live with a lot of insecurity and I think both of us were really worried the other was about to leave at any moment until we made the actual commitment. We both had some very rocky past relationships and for me especially I had an ex that swore for four years he would marry me, and then literally just walked out one day. So I was very worried I was being strung along again, but that completely went away after he asked the question.

Post # 10
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Newbee
  • Wedding: February 2013 - State Park

Yes, it happened for us.  Things were good before getting married, but the commitment of marriage just makes me feel very secure.  I guess it also feels more ‘natural,’ like we’re supposed to be married so when we were just dating it felt wrong somehow. 

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 1984

I’ve been married for 31 years and I can definitely state that we have grown happier and stronger as a couple over the years! I’m one lucky lady  and I wish the same happiness for you all!

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2014 - Loft

bearbear1:  I am definitely closer to my husband than ever. Being married gave me that extra little bit of reassurance I was missing and I have found we fight so much less than ever before. 

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

Yes.  There’s something about that extra level of security that has a calming effect for me.

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

bearbear1:  yes, i had been with Darling Husband for 8 years when he proposed, we never lived together before getting engaged so we had a lot of new experiences together. I wont lie, i actually was scared bc I heard so many stories about people who broke up after moving in. But I am also a worry wart. 

We moved in 7 months before the wedding and til this day, (we have been married 1 year and a 1/2), its amazing. I cant wait to get out of work and go home with him. We work 3 blocks away from eachother so we commute home together. I also feel we have gotten a lot closer and I have realized that he is truly my best friend, and the most amazing husband. we have the best of both worlds

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Mrs.Bill:  aww thanks! May my Darling Husband and I have your luck and perseverance too!

Another vote for its gotten waaaay better since we got married. I honestly never thought I’d be so happy being married. 

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