Post # 1
I’m wondering, am I ever going to be able to fall asleep in the same bed as FI? We are waiting until the wedding to be together… biblically. heh. But a couple of times we have slept in the same bed (when we got back from a Halloween or New Years Eve concert too late and he was too scared of all the crazy drunk drivers out there to let me drive home).
Never on these occasions do I sleep well, and it’s not because I’m feeling tempted! He kissed me good night and turned around and cloncked out, super easy… and I lay awake. Most of the night. I have had some major problems with insomnia this year so I just think about it and worry. I imagine spending our honeymoon in zombie-land from lack of sleep. Or curling up on the floor of the ‘moon suite to get some zs. Ugh.
How is it for you ladies? Do you just get used to sleeping in a bed with somebody? I have gotten a handle on my insomnia by establishing a pattern that I follow almost every night (start winding down at 11 and get in bed at 12). Maybe one day getting in bed next to someone else will just be part of “the pattern.”?
Post # 3
At first it was hard to get used to sharing a bed. I’d roll over and run into him, he’d flail and smack me in the face. He’d snore and I’d wake him up, I’d snore and he’d wake me up.
But now, the bed feels empty without him. I’ve gotten used to “my space” in the bed and enjoy being able to touch his foot with mine while we sleep. I get comfort and security knowing he’s there and now have a terrible time falling asleep without him.
Post # 4
@KatNYC2011: couldn’t have said it better
Post # 5
I had no problem with it. But he was the same way you are. He could not sleep. I felt like I was doing something wrong.
Post # 6
you’ll get used to it! there’s an adjustment period, and at times during that period it might be annoying or difficult, but you’ll get to the place where you can’t sleep in a bed by yourself 🙂
Post # 7
We’ve been sleeping together for 3 years and I still can’t sleep. We got a queen instead of a full, and that didn’t help at all. he snores, rolls around, we fight over the sheets, its ridiculous. He wants to upgrade to a king already and I’m tempted but we just got this bed! I am always tired and cranky it really sucks.
Post # 8
We’re married yet we sleep on different about beds about 3 nights of the week, especially in the summer. He gets really hot and starts fidgeting and keeps me awake, so he moves to the guestroom where he can open all the windows and toss and turn all he wants. We’ll also sleep apart if one of us has to get up really early and doesn’t wake the other one up. I love the nights we sleep together and look forward to them, but I have to admit I also enjoy my uninterrupted sleep on the other nights. Plus the cats always come to cuddle when he’s not there and keep me company 🙂
Post # 9
@Magdalena: Three words: King Size Bed.
I’m serious. It’s like he’s not even there. And with our particular bed you can’t feel the other person fidgeting or flailing. It’s AMAZING.
Post # 10
@MsGolightly: Maybe the problem is that we were trying to sleep in a twin bed… a bit cramped.
Post # 11
I have trouble falling asleep, but not much to do with SO. My mind just wanders. I am going over and over my check-list in my head!
Post # 12
I used to have trouble in the begining sleeping with my SO because I like my space. I adjusted I still get my space which he compalins about. His always like I’m always on the edge of the bed and you have all this room. Although sometimes his all on my side and I have to shake him to move. I only can’t sleep when I’m stressed about school or when I’m just thinking too much. I manage to just try to shut my brain down and that normally works.
Post # 13
@Magdalena: A TWIN bed? I can see why you had trouble getting to sleep! I second MsGolightly’s suggestion, queen is alright but king is the way to go.
Even in a queen bed it took me a long time to get used to sharing a bed with Fiance. He flails, throws elbows, snores, and talks in his sleep. I had many, many rough mornings before my brain learned to completely shut off and ignore him. Having an established pattern is good, and you will get used to it with time, but a big bed will really speed up the process!
Post # 14
My husband and I share a twin bed too. I remember once when we stayed at a hotel with a full-sized bed, and it was amazing, so I know where you’re coming from. It does take some time. I have issues with insomnia as well.
It was so difficult at first, because he snores and moves around in his sleep. I absolutely could not stand the noise. Now, it doesn’t bother me when it comes to going to sleep, but in the morning after I come back to bed after getting our daughter to sleep again, it drives me crazy. It’s definitely an adjustment period, but it takes time.
Post # 15
like others, I had a hard time at first. Now I cant sleep without him 😀
Post # 16
When my husband came home from the army, i’d spent so long sleeping by myself, it definitely took me some time to get used to a living, breathing, moving person being next to me. I sleep fine now but there are days I don’t and it makes me want a gigantic king sized bed =]
But yes, a twin bed is AWKWARD. we did it in college a lot, but it’s not very comfortable