(Closed) Things that keep you up at night…. the mister?

posted 7 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

At first it was hard to get used to sharing a bed. I’d roll over and run into him, he’d flail and smack me in the face. He’d snore and I’d wake him up, I’d snore and he’d wake me up.

But now, the bed feels empty without him. I’ve gotten used to “my space” in the bed and enjoy being able to touch his foot with mine while we sleep. I get comfort and security knowing he’s there and now have a terrible time falling asleep without him.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

@KatNYC2011: couldn’t have said it better

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I had no problem with it. But he was the same way you are. He could not sleep. I felt like I was doing something wrong. 

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

you’ll get used to it! there’s an adjustment period, and at times during that period it might be annoying or difficult, but you’ll get to the place where you can’t sleep in a bed by yourself 🙂

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

We’ve been sleeping together for 3 years and I still can’t sleep. We got a queen instead of a full, and that didn’t help at all. he snores, rolls around, we fight over the sheets, its ridiculous. He wants to upgrade to a king already and I’m tempted but we just got this bed! I am always tired and cranky it really sucks.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

We’re married yet we sleep on different about beds about 3 nights of the week, especially in the summer. He gets really hot and starts fidgeting and keeps me awake, so he moves to the guestroom where he can open all the windows and toss and turn all he wants. We’ll also sleep apart if one of us has to get up really early and doesn’t wake the other one up. I love the nights we sleep together and look forward to them, but I have to admit I also enjoy my uninterrupted sleep on the other nights. Plus the cats always come to cuddle when he’s not there and keep me company 🙂

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@Magdalena: Three words: King Size Bed.

 

I’m serious.  It’s like he’s not even there.  And with our particular bed you can’t feel the other person fidgeting or flailing.  It’s AMAZING.

Post # 11
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Helper bee

I have trouble falling asleep, but not much to do with SO. My mind just wanders. I am going over and over my check-list in my head!

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

I used to have trouble in the begining sleeping with my SO because I like my space.  I adjusted I still get my space which he compalins about.  His always like I’m always on the edge of the bed and you have all this room.  Although sometimes his all on my side and I have to shake him to move.  I only can’t sleep when I’m stressed about school or when I’m just thinking too much.  I manage to just try to shut my brain down and that normally works. 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

@Magdalena: A TWIN bed? I can see why you had trouble getting to sleep! I second MsGolightly’s suggestion, queen is alright but king is the way to go.

Even in a queen bed it took me a long time to get used to sharing a bed with Fiance. He flails, throws elbows, snores, and talks in his sleep. I had many, many rough mornings before my brain learned to completely shut off and ignore him. Having an established pattern is good, and you will get used to it with time, but a big bed will really speed up the process!

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

My husband and I share a twin bed too. I remember once when we stayed at a hotel with a full-sized bed, and it was amazing, so I know where you’re coming from. It does take some time. I have issues with insomnia as well.

It was so difficult at first, because he snores and moves around in his sleep. I absolutely could not stand the noise. Now, it doesn’t bother me when it comes to going to sleep, but in the morning after I come back to bed after getting our daughter to sleep again, it drives me crazy. It’s definitely an adjustment period, but it takes time.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

like others, I had a hard time at first. Now I cant sleep without him 😀

Post # 16
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

When my husband came home from the army, i’d spent so long sleeping by myself, it definitely took me some time to get used to a living, breathing, moving person being next to me. I sleep fine now but there are days I don’t and it makes me want a gigantic king sized bed =]

But yes, a twin bed is AWKWARD. we did it in college a lot, but it’s not very comfortable

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