- 3 months ago
This thread is giving me LIFE! I absolutely loved my wedding, and I look back on the day fondly. However, despite planning, there were still things that didn’t go the way I intended.
1. The wedding flowers were not exactly what I asked for. Even worse, my bridesmaid who knows a lot about flowers said the flowers were old. My fiance’s boutonniere was the smallest out of all of the groomsmen, and it was also visibly wilting. Ugh! This was an especially tough pill for me to swallow because I had been between two florists, and I ultimately took a risk on a local florist who charged $200 less.
2. Not really a regret, but the cheap Black Tux tuxedo my fiance (husband now!) rented was so worn in the bottom that it ripped. We just laugh that my mom had to sew it. 😛
3. The church coordinators were an absolute nightmare. They were rude to everyone, almost lost the bubbles and unity candle, yelled at my cousin while she set up the pew bows, etc. The worst part about them is that they made me stand facing everyone (who stood up for my entrance) and insisted on straightening my train for almost a FULL minute. It was excruciating, and the priest made a joke about the world’s longest walk down the aisle. The women even tightly gripped my arm to prevent me from walking down the aisle until my train was perfect.
4. The church had decorations made by little kids throughout the front of the church, so they were in the background of every picture in the church. It was annoying to see the decorations there when I had actively contacted two people about the decorations since the rehearsal a few days before. Someone had told me he was working on getting them removed, then they were there.
5. I never made time to bustle my dress (even though I had a 5-pt bustle the seamstress made), so I was walking around holding it the entire reception and during the dances. It actually made it really hard to get around, and I feel like 80% of my interactions with guests were based on how big my dress was. It made me feel a little silly!
6. We hired our dream photographer for only eight hours because it’s all we could afford (literally 20% of budget spent on her). The pictures are AMAZING, but I do regret not having coverage of any of the dancing and pictures of groups of wedding guests. (We did get non professional coverage of this.) We also missed getting video of my now husband dancing even though he actively hates dancing!
7. The photographer, as amazing as she was, did not get any pictures of us that were with us far away. I would have liked at least one photo like that. I tried to communicate this with her on the day of, but she didn’t understand what I was asking. Also, most of the pictures were with greenery in the background, which is not my preference.
8. We did not practice our first dance…and it showed. It was reeeeally hard to manage while holding a huge train!
9. My parents spent most of their time in the months before the wedding creating a slideshow. This was going to be their biggest contribution to the wedding. My dad had the screen all set up, but then he didn’t have a cable, so he told the DJ to stop playing music the last 15 mins of the wedding. My dad then tried to show the slideshow just on my laptop screen. I felt bad that my parents had spent so much time preparing this, then it didn’t go as planned. (It was supposed to be projected for everyone to watch during dinner.)
10. Our venue did not serve the chicken we wanted. We painstakingly made our food choices (I’m a food blogger, so this was a really big deal). The fact that they served the wrong thing, and then never owed up to it was a bit of a downer.
11. The venue never put out the chocolate for our sweets table. Then the person we talked to at the venue was kind of rude to my mom when she asked when we could pick up the chocolate to bring home.
All in all, most of these things are very small. Even the more annoying “regrets” of the day do not even come close to overshadowing such a beautiful day. I still can’t believe we are married!