(Closed) Things to Do First

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Mine was a list of relationship to-dos:

Travel on a plane and in a car
See Fiance with a child for long periods of time (alone)
Have several, long discussions on children, home buying, careers, etc.
Have major fights and get through
Visit each other’s families for all holidays
Get through an illness an experience side effects of such (throwing up, bathroom use, etc Laughing)
Moved in together 

But for me, all I wanted was to be settled. I wanted a job that I was fiscally and emotionally satisfied, finished my bachelors and started my Master’s, had hobbies and a life outside of my Fiance, and was living in a stable home. 

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

That commercial actually irked me. To me, So and I have done things (while in a relationship) like study abroad and do graduate programs even if it means we have to be apart. And all those things she wanted to do before being married, I guess, I didn’t see how being married would keep her from doing those things… and she could with her new husband and make memories! I realize you might want a milestone, like be out of school, or be able to afford the wedding you want, etc, before getting married, but I guess I was surprised in the tone of the commercial that it implied, like, once you got married, game over. You can no longer do anything that you dreamed of doing. Maybe this is bitter morning me. I probably didn’t explain that very well.

Post # 5
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Helper bee

@love108:  i agree!! why does being married mean you can’t accomplish these things?

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I guess, there’s the one where they want to have a baby, but they still want to travel and do other things, I completely understand that. After baby, it may be impossible financially or heavens how do you find a babysitter for a week while you backpack Europe? But the marriage one I was like, WHA???!? Way to go Honda. I love my Honda, I hate your commercial.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

It’s a really good idea to have a list like this–but to also remember that even once you are married you can still work on “your list”–and you should! 

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@love108:  Ha! That’s why I drive a Toyota Yaris. 😉

Post # 10
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Helper bee

I think the woman in that commercial just didn’t want to get married (or get married to that guy). None of her things to do first were things that you can only do when single.

Post # 11
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Newbee

@shirasagi:  My pre-proposal/married list consisted of taking a year out to travel.  I could have done it when married but I suppose it was a way of knowing he really is THE one.  They say if you survive travelling together, you will survive anything!Wink  We really depended on each other when we were away and a lot happened to put things in perspective.  I didn’t have any doubts about us before we went away and now have a stronger relationship.

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