(Closed) Things to say about comments on ring size?

posted 8 years ago in Rings
Post # 17
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

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@mrsbruff2b:  Wow!! What rude people.  Honestly, I think the best way to be with these people is direct.  To person number 1, I would just say, “Hmm, actually I disagree — you and I have very different tastes and I think our rings don’t resemble each other at all.”  To person number 2, I would say, “Wow, that’s a really unusual comment.  I’m not sure I know what you mean.  Care to explain?”  And then if she says small ring = less money, etc., just tell her that she’s mistaken and you got what you wanted.  honestly, though, don’t waste time on these people.  They are clearly insecure and they have shown some very shallow qualities. 

Post # 18
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

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@mrsbruff2b:  WOW.  I wouldn’t even acknowledge comments like that.  Reactions like that are not worth your time. 1) your ring is BEAUTIFUL! 2) I know girls who tend to get ring envy/proposal envy…even if they themselves are engaged/married!  3) People who fall into number 2 are not good friends.

Post # 19
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Bumble bee

Just say that you wouldn’t be happy with anything else. Opinions are like buttholes- as my SO says- they all stink.

Post # 20
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 1900

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@mrsbruff2b:  Some people need to stop and think before they speak.  Can’t believe how rude they are!

Post # 21
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

OMG, that is insane!!  First of all, your ring is GORGEOUS…I have always loved it.  Second of all, once you posted a picture of it in RL perpective, and I thought it looked HUGE.  So I guess it’s all a matter or perception?  I had a .53 ct solitaire and only had 1 person make a ‘small’ comment, it was someone who was unmarried at the time and it was one of those ‘Oh, I love your ring!  I want one just like it but bigger’ comments.  I let it slide, and bit my tongue years later when she got a ring smaller than mine.  Personally, with those comments I’d be inclined to be completely rude back and ask if they had a large wedding to accomodate their large mouth (or butt, if I’m being totally honest)…but probably not the best idea.  I would smile, accept their compliments and say ‘Thank you, I think it’s absolutely perfect!’ Or, come right out and say ‘Wow, that’s really rude of you to say…’ with a pityful head shake and then walk away. 

Post # 22
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

Actually, the best thing to do in that situation is reply “Thank you”. Clearly they didn’t mean it as a compliment, but if you imply that you took it that way, they will be alerted to the fact that they made a rude remard or obvious statement that was unsolicited.

Post # 23
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Bumble bee

People can be so moronic. Don’t worry about what other people say because at the end of the day, they aren’t the ones wearing the ring, you are. People put so much emphsis on how big or how small a diamond is and it’s disgusting. The size of a diamond does NOT represent how much you are loved. Any ring at all shows that he wants to spend the rest of his life with you.

I think you have a very lovely, classy ring. Bigger isn’t always better, trust me. I have a D VVS2 princess cut solitaire. And it’s only half a carat! I could have gotton a carat with what my Fiance spent on it, but quality meant for than quantity to me.

Smile and ignore the mean remarks. Focus your energy not on them, but on how much you are loved!!

Post # 24
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

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@Dandelion D:  Heheh I’m the same way. I would have to fight the urge to say something like, “Yup, small rocks, small wedding. How about you, did you choose your giant diamonds to go with your giant fingers?”

Instead of course I would plaster a smile on my face and say, “I just love it, I fill up with joy every time I see it on my finger.” And in my head I would add “…bitch.” LOL

Post # 25
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m LOLing at all the comebacks!!

Um…I’m not exactly sure if these people are seeing the same ring we’re seeing here. Your ring is GORGEOUS! And I see that your ring is from Spence too! YAY ring siblings!! Our rings are from the same home. ^_^

I’m sorry I can’t help you from experience. No one’s really said anything mean or snarky about mine…I have a 0.59ct round brilliant so it’s not exactly big LOL. Don’t worry…at the meet-up, we’re all gonna be oohing and aahing over your ring!

Post # 26
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Buzzing bee

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@linguo42:  haha, love your responses!

Post # 27
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

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@spaniel:  LOL that would be my response.

Post # 28
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

where do these people come from? nobody has ever said anything negative to me about my rings, my wedding, or anything! I can’t believe all of these threads I read about rude comments. 

I’m so sorry you have to deal with this, people suck!

I agree with 

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@spaniel:  I think the appropriate response is, “Wow, are you always that rude?”

comments that blatantly rude should be totally called out. shame on that woman!

 

Post # 31
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I had a friend do something similiar, when I saw her for the first time since getting engaged (of course I posted a pic of the ring on FB) she came up to me, grabbed my hand and looked at my ring.  This is more or less normal of friends who are excited over engagements…however I will never forget what she said next: “OMG it is as big as it looks” with a disgusted tone…then immediately said “I need a bigger ring now…I need to tell XXX that tonight” I just looked at her and god bless my friend who was standing there and just looked at the girl that made the comment and went “um, rude” and we moved on.  I thought it was the perfect response.  No sense being catty back – just “thats rude” and move on.

People and their inability to filter what comes out of their mouths never ceases to amaze me!

ETA: you’re ring is gorgeous…forget silly girls and what they say!

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