- 6 years ago
So my situation is that I have been with my boyfriend for just about a year. We met online and lived far away from each other, he moved to live nearby in September. About a month or so ago, we talked about timelines for moving in together and briefly for getting engaged. At that time, the timeline for moving in together was late spring/early summer and the earliest for engagement was Feb 2013. We have talked generally about marriage, what it means to us and things we are scared of, etc.
This weekend, however, we took a road trip to visit his family. I had asked about his dad’s second wedding a while ago, but he couldn’t remember a lot of things because he was fairly young. So my boyfriend asked his dad about it this weekend, and he pulled out the wedding video (which also involved a special TV they reserve that is hooked up to a VCR! I highly recommended getting it digitized). His dad got teary as did my boyfriend! He was even commenting about things like their band and flowers! Needless to say, I think this got some things going in my boyfriend’s head.
On the way home, we were slated to revisit our timeline for moving in, which has gotten pushed back for logistical reasons. However, we also talked about engagement timelines, and he basically told me that it might happen sooner than we had talked about before, but didn’t specify when. I still think it will be only after we have lived together for a little while, but maybe not the full 6 months. (This was in part from the recent New York Times article about living together before getting married.) He even brought up where we would get marriend ‘in theory”! I am not saying anything to any of my friends or family and am trying not to talk about it in general. He doesn’t know I am on this site at all and I am not 100% sure he would be totally comfortable with me talking about it here, but I HAD to tell someone about how excited I am or I would pop! And I knew you all would understand!