(Closed) Things we will never admit outloud, but thinking while TTC….

posted 9 years ago in TTC
Post # 47
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Im new to the TTC board, but I’ll share! Hubby and I just began TTC and we have been married a year and 3months.. I already have a 4yr old daughter from a previous relationship.

DH is a twin, and his parents think the world revolves around his twin brother and his wife…. they got married 3months after we did and are expecting their first child any day now! So I was upset that they had the first baby on that side, since they say they conut my daughter but its obvious they do not….. THEN they find out theyre having a girl! I was secretly hoping for a boy so I didnt have to feel the competition between the girls. My daughter is quite a diva, and does model for internet boutiques, so I have already heard… Oh Jordan will be even more beautiful… whatever I just hate the competition and wish they had a boy! LoL

I sound like a 5 year old but I dont care!

Post # 49
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732 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@StaceyA:  Thanks your comment made me laugh!  I needed that this week. πŸ™‚

Post # 50
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507 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

we arent going to start trying until January, but i’m secretly hoping my sister who’s a year older then me doesnt start trying for her 2nd baby the same time we start trying Frown I have a 9 yr old son from a previous relationship and started dating my husband since my son was 2 so he basically raised him with me. We all want a baby except we are trying out the billings method and want to get the hang out of it before we start TTC. my son tells us all the time ”when are you guys gonna give me a baby brother or sister already? how long am i supposed to wait?!” so yeah lol

i’m also afraid ppl will think i got pregnant too soon, particularly his mother. she’s never said anything but sometimes implies DH is not ready for babies. i hope i’m just reading too much into what she says and thats not really how she feels. which feeds into my other worries that i’ll get the wrong reaction to announcing when i’m pregnant you know instead of ”EEEEEEEP your preggers!” im afraid i’ll get oh ::pause:: congratulations…

Post # 51
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3879 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Am I the only one who will miss happy hours?? πŸ˜‰ I LOVE me some wine and craft beer!

Post # 52
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646 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

@GFerg:  Absolutely.  One reason I wasn’t totally bummed last month was the fact that FBIL’s wedding was just after AF and I could drink superfluous amounts of wine with FSIL’s crazy, fun, adorable family. 

This month is going to be a totally different story.  Getting a BFP this month would mean that the earliest  I could test would be the day of our e-pics on the 28th and I could get his reaction on film without being obvious.  I bought this a few months back when I was ordering things for my goddaughter (saving on shipping…that’s my story and I’m sticking to it).  I’d always planned on giving it to him to let him know I’m pregnant.  How cute is this, just in time for Halloween?

 

We could also tell the parents/siblings at xmas and everyone else at the wedding in January.  I know I shouldn’t psych myself up about this, but I just can’t help it.

Post # 53
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I feel like all of the people who started trying after us will have baby #2 before we even get pg. (Nevermind the fact that some of the ladies who got pg after we started trying have already gone on their year of mat leave and will be back in less than 4 months…)  We’re on Cycle 18 TTC and I’m really scared that it will never happen for us. 

Post # 54
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@StaceyA:  I think there is something about having that first grandchild, and giving something that no one else can give. πŸ™‚ Since I already have a child, I know that when my brother has one or I have another, that there is still that same excitement just different! For whatever it is, I hope that helps πŸ˜‰ I am totally in your corner for being first though πŸ˜‰

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@MrsPuddingface:  Doesn’t it always seem to happen that way?? And I happen to like immature, petty and pathetic πŸ™‚ I’m in yoru corner as well!!!!

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@MrsMoksha: I totally get where your coming from, you are not a bad person πŸ™‚

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@tall_jenny:  Oh man, what a struggle! They say stress can affect conceiving, but I don’t know how to make that less stressful!?!? Stay positive whatever you do! Walk the walk, act like you are confident your BFP is coming next month…because it is! πŸ™‚

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@ChuckNorris:  Awww, I hate to see you down on yourself!! You are not holding him up, it just hasn’t been your time for whatever reason but it will come! You know that I am in your corner, along with a ton of other bee’s! We all deserve a meltdown once in awhile, and there is absolutely NOTHING wrong with it πŸ™‚ In fact, next time send me a quick message and I’ll be right there with you! πŸ˜‰

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@CuriousOne:  I already have one child but I TOTALLY understand where you are coming from! Seeing the boards remind me of how lucky I already am to have my daughter, and I promise not to take her for granted ever πŸ™‚ If I could give up a second child to know that it would allow someone to have their first and only, I would!! I truly feel for those struggling with their first!

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@LuluH:  You didn’t deserve it whatsoever! I am keeping my FX crossed for you, your situation in no way ties in with others πŸ™‚

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@yellowlace:  You are not wrong at all for feeling that way, I know of two couples (the men brothers) and there’s couldn’t have ended any more badly. Somehow it turned into a race and now they are not talking. Just keep your blessings first and foremost in your mind πŸ™‚

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@Snickers95:  Oh that sucks, sounds like with MrsPuddingFace kinda pushed to the background! But you did annouce your BFP so here’s to a boy!!

 

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@lindsayandchris09:  I think that’s a common fear, but there are a lot of thigns you can do now to start preparing!! Charting, reading, etc..

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@Sunshine09:  HAHA!

Post # 55
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824 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

So is what I did above considered thread jacking!??! I’m not sure what that means and I saw MrsPuddingFace’s comment about saying she did but not sure what she was referring to? I hope not!! If I did I apologize!!! Uh-oh πŸ™‚

Post # 56
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761 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

See so many ladies in here that are almost my date twin! We’re not TTC till April/May but I confess when I think about work next year I wish we were trying now. I hate it!

As lovely as you all seem I hope you are all out of the ttc threads before I get in there πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚

 

DH is an only child of an only child and whose grandma is in a home being cared for alzheimers. My Mother-In-Law is a totally out to lunch self absorbed..person.. so any baby we have will have no impact on his side, poor thing. On my side I have a brother who is 5 yrs younger and been married 4. While I feel like they should have the first because they have been married longer, I’d kind of like to be the oldest with the oldest. Silly but true :/

 

Post # 58
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420 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I am so scared that I will not be able to get pregnant. I hid my PCOS (well the fact that I was like 17 or 18 and got my period once a year if that) from my mom. She still does not know. I cried myself to sleep countless times because all I ever wanted was a child and I don’t think I will ever get one.

I feel like having anything baby in my house is a jinx. I have a bouncer from when my goddaughter was up for the wedding that I am desperately looking for a box for so I can ship it to her.

I am jealous of my cousin-in-laws kid because my Mother-In-Law calls her her granddaughter along with the little girl she watches. My future children are her true grandkids and I feel that it cheapens it especally since they both have grandparents. I then feel like a selfish brat for feeling that way and that maybe God is punishing me for being a bitch.

Post # 59
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420 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@glittermoon:  lol the first part of this is totally me too!! I want a girl so bad I know if I get prego it will be with a boy.

Post # 60
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1607 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

My TTC Confession:

I can’t believe that DH’s slut of a sister got pregnant while her and her on again off again boyfriend took ecstacy and she is have a FREAKING GIRL!!! SERIOUSLY!!

Oh topping on the cake… i had to drive her to the public aid office to sign up for freaking food stamps today!! So now i have to take care of her kid also with my tax money!

Post # 61
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4053 posts
Honey bee

@MrsStrawberry24:  OMG FACEPALM. This exactly every day of my life. Like 90% of our patients are on food stamps lol. Pregnant, nails done, hair done, iPhones, designer everything, and food stamps. 

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