(Closed) Things you hope people aren’t thinking about your wedding…

posted 7 years ago in Weddingbee
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Well, due to religious reasons, we had a very small ceremony that only family could attend and had a big reception afterwards for everyone.  I was very worried that people who don’t understand my religion thought we were purposely excluding them from the ceremony, which wasn’t the case at all.  That was really my only worry.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Wow, sorry she wasted the invitation on them.  I think there will always be people like that when you invite them.  They live in their own little world and everything only effects them.  I’m not worried about it.  If they don’t like it, they don’t have to come.  So don’t worry about them and enjoy your wedding.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

meh I don’t think any of that is unreasonable.

cash bar at THIER wedding vs. bar of choice (bar of choice takes the cake)

as for cutting out after dinner? lots of people do that.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Lame.  I can get wasted at a bar of my choice any day of the week but I only have one chance to get wasted at a particular friends wedding with a bunch of friends.  I personally think they’re assholes.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I used to worry people would think that I was making a mistake because my fiance had to leave grad school due to depression and had been unemployed for awhile. But since he got a job last month, that fear has gone away. Whew!!

Now my only fear is that people will think it’s boring because there’s no dancing. ๐Ÿ˜›

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

Well, you can’t always please everyone all the time.  But I think it would have been wiser for the couple to consider their guest list first.  If you or your family aren’t close to certain people, don’t invite them.  I think the people who really matter to you both will be excited to go, no matter what is served or when.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@Bubu82: Ugh. How sad ๐Ÿ™

I’m worried about guests thinking about no hard alcohol, a 45 minute drive from ceremony to reception and that my crowd is to old to get on the dance floor :-/

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

i dont have an issue with them choosing to go spend their money at a bar elsewhere, i dont like cash bars and i dont even drink booze – i wouldnt invite guests to an event and expect them to pay

i have been at a wedding where we were taking bets at our table to guess how long the marriage would last for – we attended to support hubbys buddy, even though we didnt support his choice in bride.  btw, the marriage lasted less than a year

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

@Heatherloveskenny: People will surprise you. Some of the older crowd at my wedding were getting jiggier with it on the dance floor than my friends!

@Bubu82: That sucks. If I didn’t support someone’s marriage or didn’t feel close enough to them to want to attend their wedding, I would RSVP “no” and send a card. I wouldn’t go for the free food and then go drinking elsewhere acting like everyone else was some sort of sucker for staying longer.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

It’s true people will judge you and have lots of negative things to say about your wedding – to you andbehind your back. But, who really cares? Not me ๐Ÿ™‚ MY wedding was fabulous and yours will be too! Screw all those other people hehehe

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Im worried that people will see my red,black, and white damask theme and roll their eyes thinking oh geez thats original.  Also I am worried they are going to be pissed about the 3 hour gap between ceremony and reception.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’m worried that people won’t have fun, or think the decor looks stupid. My number one fear is that we run out of alcohol and that people will talk.

I have been to a wedding before though where I thought the bride was making a huge mistake (and she knew I thought this) but went anyway because I support her and wanted to be there for her, even though I thought the marriage was a crock.

Post # 15
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Busy Beekeeper

I have no control over what people will think and I’m not going to waste any effort worrying about it. Human nature being what it is, you know everyone is gonna have an opinion (neutral, negative or positive) so I just assume 50% will be okay with whatever we are choosing to do; 40% won’t care either; 5% will think its best thing since sliced bread and 5% will hate it. Me and Fiance however will be 100% happy that we did things our way, and thats what matters. Honestly, the only two areas where my guest thoughts remotely enter my mind is that food is good and the music is popping, but I already know SOMEONE will have issues with it, so what can you.

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

That is a good point about the cash bar, they’re leaving to pay more money at another bar!

I’m nervous about the cash bar for ours… we are having one but are doing an open bar for an hour that includes even top shelf… which is like $1,500 (a lot!) then the cash bar… I feel bad people will have to pay, but I am worried that since it’s on a Sunday and it’s an early wedding that spending like $4,000 on an all night open bar would be a waste, I mean I guess people would drink more if it’s free but I just can’t see blowing that kind of money… a lot of people seem to complain about the cash bars…

I just think of that Dr seuss quote, those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind. I know it’s for the guests but it’s just way too damn much for liquor!! ๐Ÿ™ Can’t bring our own in, just no way around it really.

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