Post # 1
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Sugar bee
This morning I drive to work and merge onto a main road after the car in front of me (its a yield not a stop), there is a car way back but since the car in front of me decides to go 15 in a 35 it takes him no time to get right on my bumper and of course he’s pissed about it. I can’t go any faster than the car in front of me but he doesn’t seem to care. He starts beeping his horn and swerving back and forth behind me. He gets in the turn lane and flips me off staring right at me mouthing “F*UCK YOU B*TCH”. He was behind me for a total of 15 seconds and had to stop at the light anyway – I did nothing wrong. I didn’t slow him down a bit and yet he feels he needs to flip me off.
Two people I knew died yesterday. One in a very tragic accident, the other lost her battle with cancer. I was emotional and didn’t want to go to work in the first place so being flipped off was the last thing I needed. I had to pull over to the side of the road because I was reduced to tears. I sobbed for a good 10 min. before I called Darling Husband for comfort.
The next time you decide to flip someone off first look at the situation then decide if its worth it because you never know what that person could be going through.
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
I’m not a flipper offer or a rage driver…since I’m usually making the mistakes. And you never know why the person is driving weird or who they are.
I’m so sorry for your loses, and I hope you can get some time off from work to grieve and regroup!
Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
(((HUGS))) I am so sorry about your friends….
Post # 5
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Honey bee
I’m so sorry for your losses. Maybe this makes me a mild road rager, but if someone does that to me I totally slam on my brakes just to piss them off even more, because they deserve it.
I only flip people off if 1. they make s huge mistake like getting right in front of me with no turn signal at the last second when they had plenty of space where they were before. 2. They can’t see me flipping them off – I do it more as an anger release for me, I’d feel bad if they saw me do it. Unless they’re driving like a total a-hole, speeding, veering back and forth between lanes, etc.
Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
@MrsPinkPeony: so true. I’m so sorry about the people in your life that passed away. Agressive driving is an issue, and we should all be aware of how our actions (and words) affect other people….especially while driving!
((Hugs)) 🙂
Post # 7
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Honey bee
I’m so sorry! I have been on both sides of the fence with that. I had someone do that to me once in the city and I was scared to death. Another time I gave the finger and then felt bad all day. UGH! I definately will think twice now before yelling at someone driving. Lately, I feel as though there are a LOT of aggressive drivers out there, so I just try to stay calm and ignore it instead of getting mad. I’m sorry that happened to you.
Post # 8
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Busy bee
I’m so sorry, that was just so terrible. People really do need to think twice. You never know what someone is going through.
Post # 9
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Busy bee
- Wedding: June 2015 - Thorpewood
I will admit I’ve flipped people off while driving before though they were DEFINITELY in the wrong. Changing lanes without looking and almost hitting me, cutting me off and almost causing an accident, etc etc.
In your case though, it seems like a major overreaction and I’m SO sorry about your loss! I’m sure that guy was either having a bad day himself or is just a general douchebag. Regardless though, that’s awful. 🙁
Post # 10
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Sugar bee
@soyjoy222: I’ve flipped someone off before and like you I felt terrible about it afterward. I feel like this guy is probably still mad at me and I just don’t understand because I did nothing wrong!
Even if I was in the wrong whats the purpose of flipping someone off? To make them feel bad? Well that guy made me feel horrible and I don’t want to ever make someone feel like that I just don’t understand the point.
Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper
I am so sorry for your losses. And for having to deal with such a rude driver.
Post # 12
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Helper bee
Such a good point. I’m sorry for your losses and I’m sorry that man was rude 🙁
Even without the stuff your dealing with emotionally being treated like that by another driver is just wrong. I can visualize the situation and it just seems like that guy is an a-hole b/c you did nothing wrong. I wish road rage was on the decline and sadly I feel that people are just getting more angry.
Keep your head up.
Post # 13
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Bumble bee
So sorry for your losses! I really have learned to ignore other people’s reactions to my driving because every one has somewhere to go and it’s always more important that me, and that’s fine. Let it affect their blood pressure, not mine. The only time I ever honk my horn or make a rude gesture to someone is when they’ve done something stupid that might endanger other drivers or have tailgated me. There’s just no reason for it. People forget we travel in 2 ton machines that can be lethal.
Post # 14
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Sugar bee
@MrsCoachBtoBee: Such good advice and I feel like I’m going in the opposite direction in that I am becoming more aware of other drivers around me. I need to stop.
Darling Husband kept reminding me on the phone that I did nothing wrong and shouldn’t get so upset but I couldn’t/can’t help thinking about it. There was just so much anger coming from that driver and it was directed at me. I just wanted to get out of the car and yell, “what was I suppose to do run over the other car?!” Its a residential area right near a school, 35 almost seems too fast and the car in front of me had every right to go slower.
Post # 15
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Bumble bee
@MrsPinkPeony: Here’s the thing about that: his anger wasn’t directed at YOU. It was directed at the world/his life/whatever was wrong with him that day and you just happened to be the target. He probably did it to lots of people before he got to work.
Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
Major hugs, hun :(. I’m so sorry this is all happening to you.
