Post # 1
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Newbee
Hi all!
OMG so.. my bf of nearly 6 years has planned a surprise trip and we go tomorrow. He planned it months ago and told me to book some time off work with no other details. I put it to the back of my mind but now its tomorrow and Im crazy excited and have a weird anxious feeling too, maybe because Ive been waiting for it for a while and it’s such a big deal to me? Im also thinking “how will I react”? “How will it feel to see my dream man on one knee?”, “What will he say?”, “Will I cry?”
He told me to pack a bag with passport. He had never been so secretive about something before. Even if its not a proposal I am super thankful at what a sweet gesture this is.
I know he has the ring as we chose it together a long time ago and I heard the voicemail from the jewellers saying it was ready to collect (lol). He said recently we would be engaged before Christmas. We also discussed the idea of getting married in 2021 and came up with some dates that meant something to us. It felt really nice to have this conversation.
Ive had my nails done just in case! OMG this could be IT!
I feel like I cant and shouldnt share this excitement with anyone else just in case it doesnt happen, plus my closest friend is single and feeling bad about that right now, so Illl just enthuse on here!
Who else thought a proposal was coming and were you right? Did you feel anxious?
Post # 2
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Worker bee
Bee2Be21 : Congrats girl!!!! Keep us updated!!! Even if it’s not an engagement, it’s a super sweet gesture, and I hope you really enjoy your trip!!!! Try not to spend the whole time wondering when he’ll propose, you’ll want to be present for your vacation, with or without the ring.
I’m still waiting but one of my best friend’s boyfriend proposed recently on a trip, and we called it weeks beforehand. She spent her first several days worried about whether he would or wouldn’t do it. Enjoy yourself and have fun on your secret vacation. ☺️☺️
Post # 3
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Helper bee
Soooo exciting…can I come lol
Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
Wel, l hope it works out just as you want dear OP, but do beware of handing over so much power.
I don’t like that you have been ‘waiting ‘, he hasn’t, he bought the ring and ( to me incomprehensibly) did that hanging on to it thing despite your evident desire to have it. Now he decides where and when – or even if- and even instructs you when to take time off and organise your passport.
Presumably you are OK with your passive role, but do take care it doesn’t go too far.
Bee2Be21 :
Post # 5
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Helper bee
elderbee : mind blown my this comment
Post # 7
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Worker bee
What a sweet man! I hope the trip is everything you want it to be… and more!!! Have the most wonderful time 🙂
I had a similar experience; we normally organise holidays together (me doing most of the organising) but earlier this year he asked me for a few days in July that I could take off work. He ended up planning a lovely trip to Florence, where he then proposed. It was incredibly thoughtful and sweet (although now I know he can do such a good job at organising holidays, I won’t let him off so easily next time we plan one!!!)
Post # 8
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Newbee
elderbee : Sorry, I appreciate you taking the time to reply but this is kinda offensive. I am far from a passive woman and your opinion on our relationship dynamic is inaccurate, but I suppose you can only go on my short account of what’s happening.
We decided a timeline together, chose the ring together and now it seems he’s organised a nice way to propose, which he knows I’d love. You don’t have to be passive to like some traditional things or want somewhat of a surprise. This is important to him too. I’m not the kind of girl to demand a ring and tell him to immediately give it to me when I want it, how strange.
ukweddingbee : Yes we are the same, I normally organise our trips! What a lovely gesture from your HTB, aww. Florence looks stunning as well! Congratulations!
@Everyone else – Thank you! I’m going to try not to focus or worry about if/when it’s going to happen like you say and just enjoy this trip with my man ☺️ I will update when I’m back…
Post # 9
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Helper bee
EEEK! This is so exciting!! Im crossing everything for you, but as you say its a really sweet gesture regardless! Sounds like a lovely man you have there!
I can sort of sympathize, my FH proposed on a trip away and about a week before i accidentally saw that he had the ring, before that i had had no idea at all! To be honest once we got set off on the trip i was so excited about the trip that i didnt even think about it or if it would happen and it was a lovely surprise!
Have a fab time!
Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
Well of course I had no intention to insult you , l just feared for you that’s all. ‘Tradition ‘ is rarely a friend to women , enshrining , as it usually does, men’s agency and women’s lack thereof.
Of course l wish you happy, these pps being outraged etc on your behalf have missed the point. I don’t believe you did miss it.
Bee2Be21 :
Post # 11
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Helper bee
Omg I don’t wanna wait for you to get back! I wanna know nnnnnnooooowwwwwww hahahaha
Have a wonderful trip! 🖤
Post # 12
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Newbee
It happened! 😀 He took me to a gorgeous hotel and proposed in the room. I cried a lot! Then we went to Paris in the morning. It was the best surprise and trip of my life, I’m on cloud 9! Let the planning begin 🙂 🙂
Post # 13
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Helper bee
Bee2Be21 : congratulations!!! What a beautiful story!! The ring picture didn’t work though 😏
Post # 14
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Bumble bee
Bee2Be21 : Woooo congrats!!! Can we see a pic of the ring?
Post # 15
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Helper bee
Congratulations girl sounds amazing 😉
