- Happy Hopeful Bee
- 6 years ago
- Wedding: July 2014
@kait_anne: I know how difficult this is for you and I’m glad that you did not make any decisions last night. Please take all the time that you need to think about everything that has happened and to think about what it will be like if you get back with him, whether you’ll be able to trust him again or whether like PPs mentioned you’ll be an anxious nervous wreck at times when he’s on his phone or when he leaves the house to go out and even when he’s at work with her everyday, think about how you might feel and if you are willing to live like that and for how long because if you stay with him this will take you some time to get over and you both need to be prepared for that. I know you love him and you want to believe the best about him but please think about yourself too and how you will be affected. Just please think about everything before you make a final decision.
Clearly OP’s Boyfriend or Best Friend had already made plans to see ballerina again behind OP back, the only thing that stopped him was that OP became suspicious and confronted him. So I don’t buy the whole “her personality wasn’t as interesting as OP” becuase he was just planning another secret dinner with her! So clearly he was still interested in ballerina! I hate to say this but it really seems like he is still lying and not being completely truthful with OP. And another thing, he had no conscience about purposely waiting until OP was out of town each time to do these things that is so pre-meditated (its not like he ran into ballerina on the street and they grabbed lunch, he PLANNED these things behind OPs back!) AND the last time OP was right there in town, so he was getting bolder and trying to see ballerina more even with OP in town! He was definitely moving forward with whatever was going on and happy doing it…until he got caught! 🙁
I’m hoping for the best for you OP, whatever you decide.