- 2 years ago
We have been together 9 years, married for 1. This female coworker started at his job a year and a half ago. The past few months they have gotten too close for my liking. Talking personal stuff. They snap chat each other every day. Husband has never been one to go out to the bar or parties. Just so happened he went to her Halloween party after work with the coworkers and then to the bar a couple times with coworkers. I know sure that’s fine, he’s a grown man and can have fun with his coworkers. It just shocks me because he is turning into this guy that I don’t know.
He talks about her constantly “Lauren did this. Lauren did that. That guy is just using her. Etc” I confronted him before about having a crush on her and he said no, but that she is his friend and a good person. I’ve asked him a few times this past month and he told me he gets annoyed with how insecure I am and that I don’t trust him.
Well last night I went with him to the Christmas work party at a bar. He was snap chatting her asking when she was coming. When she got there he stared at her the entire night. Especially when he was getting tipsy. She was too touchy feeling with slapping him in the arm, He grabbed her hand at one point. His body was positioned at her the whole time, he even went to the bathroom and left me at the table. I look up and he’s over with her and 2 other guys.
I told him on the car ride home that I’m not stupid. I know he likes her and that he basically eye f***** her all night. And I know that look because that’s how he looked at me the first time we met. Last night it felt like sometimes I wasn’t there. When I told him all of that he started laughing at me. Then he told me no matter what he said I wasn’t going to believe him, and we left it at that.
Well we got home at 3:40am and I woke up at 7am and silently bawled my eyes out while he slept next to me. I’m not sure what to do or feel. I feel like I’ll lose my husband if it continues and I feel like I lose him from nagging him and not trusting him.
any thoughts or advice?