Post # 1
Thanks everyone for your advice, i’m SO glad to hear it!
I deleted this because my friend knows I use this site, and I think it’d be pretty easy to figure out who I am by my SN, date and location..
Post # 3
Say nothing. I don’t think you have enough evidence to say he cheated on her. Plus, if it was a one time thing that I knew he’d never do again, as the gf I honestly would not want to know – ignorance is bliss sometimes!
Post # 4
I’d stay out of it. You don’t know for sure and it’s not really your business to get involved.
Post # 5
You do nothing.
As you said you only think, no proof. If you tell her it will be your word against his and you will likely be the bad man in this scenario.
Maybe she does deserve to know, but if you tell her what does she gain out of it? If her BF is not a loyal doting father and bf, then what will happen to that now-great relationship? Is it worth telling her something you think?
Post # 6
Thank you. I just want to make sure i’m doing the right thing. It doesn’t make much sense to tell her, because it was a mistake and he won’t repeat it, all it would do is tear them apart, but at the same time I want to make sure that staying quiet doesn’t make me a horrible friend.
Post # 7
You don’t have enough evidence to prove he cheated. However, you do know things that the gf might not know. I would share with her what he said without insinuating or speculating anything else. “Your bf said this in public to me and X other people. I thought you should know that he said these things.”
Post # 8
@Lovemelovemyhorses: Stay out of it and say nothing. Nothing good can come of your saying something to her. It’s up to him to tell her if he so chooses.
Post # 9
In this instance I wouldn’t tell – I’m sure if he did cheat the guilt is eating him up inside as it is.
I’ve been in a similar situation, except he flat out told me “SecretBee, I cheated on X.” Long story short, I told her and as a result am no longer friends with either of them (they broke up and never got back together after this).
Post # 10
Since you don’t have any evidence, I would stay out of it.
Post # 11
It’s not your place to say anything. She might already be aware. Either way, it’s not going to help the situation or your relationship with either of them.
Let it be.
Post # 12
That was another thing I was thinking. For all I know, she already knows and that be part of how she came to the conclusion that cheating is an absolute dealbreaker (i know it is for most of us I think, but it’s a possibility that it helped form her boundaries I guess).
Post # 13
Good luck with this situation! You’re a good friend!!