Post # 1
I’ve posted previously here about the ups and downs of my waiting journey so far.
I’ve done a lot of self reflection the last few months and we have been seeing someone to get us back on track with communication which has worked wonders. We’re back on the same page about our future.
Crazily, i am considering proposing to him on christmas morning this year.
I have this idea of presenting him with a gift for each christmas we have spent together something that is something special/meaningful and so far (I have a best boyfriend mug, his favourite beef jerky so far…) and i was thinking of ending all this with a present for the future, being a card and in the card something along the lines of ‘elope with me?’ hallmark dont exactly make something that suits my purposes, and maybe matching rings inside to mark the engagement or say i bought the wedding rings ready?
I was really hoping to hear any ideas you ladies have to offer on how i could do this without chickening out. I really want to make this simple but special…nothing too over the top, but something that shows him how much he means to me and that im an idiot for not just appreciating him and our relationship all along instead of freaking out about when we’re getting engageed/married all the time
Any ideas are welcome!
Or you can tell me im nuts! lol
Post # 3
Do you know for sure he wants to get married?
Post # 4
@KatyElle: yes i do, however i am hesitant to take away his ‘moment’ in asking, but we never know what is around the corner in life and i don’t want to waste another day not being engaged/married to the man i love 🙂
Post # 5
I think it’s a great idea that you want to propose to him, but I’m not a fan of doing it on a holiday/birthday/anniversary. But, that being said, you know your relationship better than I do. I think it’s a cute idea (all the gifts leading up to the engagement), so if you think he’d melt over it (and wants to get married), go for it!
Post # 6
I think the idea sounds lovely. But if you feel that part of the issues in your relationship have been over you “freaking out about when we’re getting engageed/married all the time” you proposing might feel like more of that to him and you taking control. Unless you know he feels totally okay with the idea of you proposing.
Obviously you know him and I don’t but that’s my thoughts. Good luck!
Post # 7
If you’re worried about “taking away his moment” then do NOT propose to him. What if he’s not ready? Can you handle that kind of rejection?
I personally am not a fan of holiday proposals either.
Post # 8
@country chic: by the same token though it may take the pressure off him.
He has said before that even though he knows ill say yes, it’s still stressful for him to work out how to ask after i now know he has a ring.
I don’t think he’ll say no. He may say no momentarily and then turn around and ask me even?
But it’s a good point made for me to think carefully about before i say/do anything.
Post # 9
@MsAmandaAnn: Only reason i was really thinking christmas is because he’s never really had a good one (his words) growing up and this could turn the day into something special for the rest of our lives? Does that sound too mushy?