- 8 years ago
- Wedding: October 2011
By them, I mean my aunt and uncle. They have always been there for me and I have always considered them my second set of parents. I am the only girl in my family so our wedding is kind of a big deal. My aunt only has boys so she has been and will be taking part in just about every aspect of our wedding that my mom is.
We had planned on having my bridal shower at her house since I wanted something casual and inexpensive as 2/3 of my bridal party really can’t afford anything fancy. Her house is straight out of Good Housekeeping so I certainly wasn’t settling. We had actually thought about getting married there but then realized that after renting everything that would be needed, we really wouldn’t be saving any money. Anyways, so today my Aunt emails me and asks if I would like to have my shower at a different venue (this venue is gorgeous but very expensive – my Future Mother-In-Law and I threw my FSIL’s shower there last year). I told her that I really like that place but its too expensive and I didnt feel right asking my girls to throw such a lavish bridal shower when I know they can’t afford it. My aunt then offered to pay for my shower if I decided I wanted it there. I asked her if she had changed her mind about us having it at her house and she said of course not but that she wanted to give me the option to have it where I really wanted to.
Honestly, I WANT to have my shower at her house so thats what I told her and thats what were doing. So now I’m thinking that I really should include my aunt and uncle in our wedding. My cousins (their 3 boys) are our ushers and ring bearer. I was thinking about adding them to the processional. They would enter first, before the grandmothers and our parents. It’s not a major role but I think they would really like it and it would mean alot to them. Besides, I dont have the same relationship with them as most nieces have with their aunt and uncle. I feel like its much more than the normal relationship (she is my only aunt and I am her only biological niece (no nephews)). My aunt also happens to be my godmother (though honestly, that doesnt really mean much to me – don’t really believe in the whole thing).
My issue is how it will look. Fiance only has one uncle who he is not very close with but I feel like it will look weird if I include my aunt and uncle in our processional but not his uncle and his wife. I feel like my FIL’s may not be too keen on the idea either. My mother is all for it though! Thoughts?