(Closed) Thinking about announcing pregnancy early…

posted 5 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 31
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

We told our parents quite early, maybe around 7 or 8 weeks. But that’s because I was so poorly and unable to go and visit them as often as I was. We didn’t tell the rest of the family until about 12/13 weeks and then announced to our friends/Facebook a bit later. If it wasn’t for being poorly we would have waited to tell everyone at the same time.

Actually my work colleagues found out before everyone else because I was throwing up at work!

Post # 32
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

It’s completely up to you, but I wouldn’t. All was looking good for me in my first pregnancy, but when I had an ultrasound at 10 weeks, the baby’s heart had stopped beating about a week before. My thoughts are that if you’e be happy to tell everyone you’d had a miscarriage, then tell people early if you want to. 

Post # 33
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Personally no I wouldn’t, the minute everyone knows it becomes real and the questions start etc etc I think it would feel like a very long pregnancy with ppl knowing so early. 

We didnt tell anyone until we were 13 weeks gone. It was nice to have those first few months with just Darling Husband and me having this little secret. Then we had lots of ppl to share the excitement with after a few months. it kind of made those first few months pass a bit quicker I thought. 

touch wood I’m 32 weeks now and all goes well and if we’re lucky ebough to have another I’m going to wait longer to announce. 40 weeks is a loooooooong time!

Post # 34
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

Before I got pregnant I always said I would wait until the 2nd trimester but it’s really different once it actually happens.  Darling Husband and I were so excited and wanted to share with immediate family sooner.  We told our parents and siblings around 6 weeks. My best friend knew as soon as I took the test. I slowly started telling friends just because I really couldn’t hold in something so huge in my life. We did an official announcement to all family and friends around 11 weeks because I wanted to do it on Mother’s Day. It really is a personal decision and there is no right or wrong. Some peeople like to share the news and others don’t. You need to do what is right for you.

Post # 35
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

Darling Husband was pretty excited.  I think he told his family the week we found out and my parents about a week or so after we found out.  I also told 3 really close friends.  I told some other friends around what I thought was 10w or so.  I really wouldn’t mind any of them knowing if something happened, I am obviously close to all of them.  I think we put it online around 16w after my first ultrasound.  I swear I told my work at like 23w lol

Post # 36
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I agree with PP – it’s all about how you want to deal with a possible loss.

The reason people keep it a secret in the begining is that 1) it’s an option. Can’t really hide it at 24 weeks lol. And 2) they’d prefer to grieve in private and move on at their pace.

If you are the type of person how deals with these things better with support from friends and family, then share it now. Many of us do better having everything out in the open like that. Also, if you’re living life with a ‘no day but today” sort of attitude, why should you fundamentally change yourself just cuz other people think you should? Right now, you’re pregnant and happy – so share it! Whatever happens next, share that too.

However, I couldn’t have done it. I would have felt so guilty for making my friends & family have to grieve along with us and then so judged by them on how I was handling the loss myself. I made my husband wait.

Post # 37
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

I am 11 weeks pregnant right now, and I told my best friends and family at about 6 weeks. I have an NT scan this coming Monday, and another visit to my OB the Monday after that, so I think I will be comfortable officially announcing after that. I will be 13 weeks. It is a nervewracking situation.

Post # 39
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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HappyORBride:  Do not tell work until you are further along than 9 weeks. No.

Post # 41
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I think you have gotten a lot of great advice from all the bees.

I have had a couple of losses and after the first one, I just shared with the ones I knew would show empathy and provide support. I agree that life should be celebrated and I’m wishing you a very happy and healthy pregnancy 🙂

I did want to clarify that the risk of miscarriage is not 5% at 6 weeks, it’s closer to 10% but it drops to less than 5% after 1 week.

https://sites.google.com/site/miscarriageresearch/miscarriage-general

Post # 43
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

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HappyORBride:  It’s 100% your choice when to announce, but I definitely wouldn’t.  

I told my two best friends right when we found out, but no one else until 12 weeks.  I still waited another 4 weeks to announce “publically” on facebook and things.  Even now, at 17 weeks, I’m anxious that I said something too soon.  But then again, for me a loss would be a lot different because we went through infertility treatments to get this baby, and we weren’t even sure I COULD get pregnant before it happened, so I’m terrified something will go wrong. 

Post # 45
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Newbee

I think it’s a personal choice, and honestly there is no guarantees. One of our friends thought they were in the clear when they announced at 14 weeks and sadly miscarried at 17 weeks. Others announce at 6 weeks and have healthy babies. Do what you and your husband feel best. 

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