(Closed) Thinking about calling it off

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 63
Member
177 posts
Blushing bee

missbunnyrabbit: you’re so brave!!

My recommendation would be to go for roommates. Maybe a group of people who weren’t friends before they moved in. It might be nice to have other people around and not be so alone right now. Even if you’re not bff’s with them, sometimes it’s nice to know you’re not in the house alone.

Good luck with everything!

Post # 64
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610 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I totally think you’re making the right decsion. Whenever you need support, just come to this thread!!! All of us are here for you! Good luck and you go girl!

Post # 66
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3709 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@missbunnyrabbit: In a nutshell…take the texts to the police and file a complaint. At a minimum, he is harassing you and cyberstalking you. He is also trying to blackmail you which I do believe is illegal as well. Usually the only thing that stops a bully is the threat of punishment. Take this VERY seriously and run…don’t walk…to your local police station.

Post # 67
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4544 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@missbunnyrabbit: Wow, I really don’t know what to tell you about that! What a jerk! That’s disgusting that he hacked into your email and taped you having sex. Has he said what he plans to do with the tape? Obviously, change your password and maybe even your email account!

Post # 68
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4137 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

i’m so sorry! change your password IMMEDIATELY. it’s likely he hasn’t saved your list of contacts.

since he taped you without knowledge, that’s illegal. maybe you should talk to a lawyer? or the police? i don’t know…any legal bees know what to do?

Post # 69
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7586 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

Ahh! Attack of the ex! I went through the same thing. I left a controlling fiance. He threatened me with all kinds of stuff, including sending emails to my work and ruining my career. He claimed he would ruin my credit. He essentially went nuts.

He however, never did any of it. People who are hurt do and say crazy things. However, the “do” part is not as common. I would stand your ground. Not answer his texts or messages. You need to ignore him completley. He wants you to feed in to everything he’s saying because it still allows him to control your emotions and your thoughts.

I ended up having to file a restraining order against my ex. He would sit outside of my condo. Ugh. I hope this works out for you and doesn’t get as crazy for you.

Post # 69
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7586 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

Ahh! Attack of the ex! I went through the same thing. I left a controlling fiance. He threatened me with all kinds of stuff, including sending emails to my work and ruining my career. He claimed he would ruin my credit. He essentially went nuts.

He however, never did any of it. People who are hurt do and say crazy things. However, the “do” part is not as common. I would stand your ground. Not answer his texts or messages. You need to ignore him completley. He wants you to feed in to everything he’s saying because it still allows him to control your emotions and your thoughts.

I ended up having to file a restraining order against my ex. He would sit outside of my condo. Ugh. I hope this works out for you and doesn’t get as crazy for you.

Post # 70
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11095 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

@JamaicaBride:

Bingo!

Dontcha just love how these kind of creeps always validate the decision to dump them?

Post # 71
Member
162 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Marie Gabrielle

Definitely go to the police – what an idiot that he did that, PLUS put it in writing.  He can’t do anything with it because he essentially signed his own jail sentence by texting you.  Ugh, so sorry you have to go through this – what a nightmare!  Just know that your friends and family support you and his behavior just reflects HORRIBLY on him, NOT you.  I find it doubtful that he’d do anything, especially now that he’d just be asking for jail time at this point.  Please go to the police – they will be able to help you end the harassment!  Nobody needs this kind of jerk in their life!! Many, many hugs 🙁

Post # 72
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11095 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

@mwitter80:

 

He doesn’t sound hurt to me.  He sounds angry that she had the nerve to ditch him & cut off his narcissistic supply.

Sometimes they do follow thru on their threats, which is why going to the police is essential.

 

 

Post # 73
Member
105 posts
Blushing bee

First of all, congrats on leaving him, and I mean that.  Pat yourself on the back every day for making that painful decision.  It’s obvious that you did the right thing.

The other Bees are right.  While he may not act on it, at least you have the foresight now to know what he is capable of, and have the proof to take preventative action.

You hold all of the cards now.  Best of luck to you!

Post # 75
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7682 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

@missbunnyrabbit:

I am so happy to hear that you left.  I would do what the others here said-Contact the police and bring the email with you.  Get a restraining order if he knows where you work or live.  I just want you to know that you are very brave and I am hoping for the best and happiest life for you!  🙂

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