- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
***Warning, long post***
Newbie here! I’ve been a lurker on the site for a while now and just recently decided to join! I’m hoping to get some advice/opinions on my situation….Just to give you a little background about me. Fiance and I have been dating for 4 years, he proposed on October 2011. We decided to have our wedding in September 2013, since this will give us enough time to save. After checking out a few places, we finally found “the one” and about two weeks ago put a large deposit (non-refundable) down on our venue.
Now here’s where it gets a bit complex…Fiance has been having health problems for the last few months, he’s been going to his doctor and he’s been taking prescription medication. Well within the last few weeks his health problems had seemingly gotten more severe (we had to go to the ER). His doctor had ordered some testing and referred him to a specialist. Thankfully, they didn’t find what we suspected but we’re told he would benefit from some medical equipment (which can be rather expensive). Fiance is now concerned that we may not be able to afford our wedding on top of the medical bills/expenses. Now we do have insurance but it’s a high deductible insurance. He suggested we call off the wedding BUT do a JOP sort of thing at the courthouse and go out to dinner with close family and friends later. Of course I was devasted when he said this. I told him that I would definitely help him with any medical expenses he has but he wouldn’t budge!
I talked to my mom about it and she doesn’t think we should just cancel our wedding plans especially after putting the deposit down. She thinks we would just have to cut corners else where in our wedding but still have a wedding (which I agreed). She has also offered to help out finacially as well. I also spoke with my Future Mother-In-Law and she thinks we should just cut our losses and have something smaller. She is a traveler, so she suggested we possibly do a cruise wedding. She too, has offered to help out financially as well on whatever we decide to do. I did call one of the major cruise lines to get more info and I found tha they have some wonderful wedding deals/packages that includes everything, all under $3K. I absolutely fell in love with the idea of getting married on a ship, and go straight to our honeymoon! Its very affordable. Now when I brought it up to my mom, she was totally turned off by it. She kind of felt like it was wrong to ask our guests to pay “X” amount of dollars to go on a cruise, clear out a week of their time to sail and celebrate with us. She doesn’t think we would have a large turn out, mind you the package is only for 20 guests so I’m not going to expect everyone I was going to originally invite (our original guest list was 80 ppl). As long as we have our close family with us, thats all that matters to us. But my mom just doesn’t think its a good idea. My Fiance is actually open to this idea and think it’s something we should do. So ladies, my question is WHAT SHOULD I DO! I’m so torn, because we both fell in love with our venue, and I’m still dreaming of having our wedding there. But on the other hand, I really like the idea of cruising with our families and getting married on a ship, plus its affordable! All help is appreciated!
Oh and also I’d like to add, my Fiance just got an amazing job in management (he starts 1st week of March) so he will be making alot more money as well. Thanks for your help bees!!