Post # 1
On the V-day challenge.
HA! Sorry, I couldn’t help myself
Here’s the situation, let me know what yall think. I don’t know if this is actually a good idea, or if I’ve just fooled myself into thinking it is.
SO and I are crazy about each other, super happy, and it has been made clear that we will be spending the rest of our lives together. February 6th will be our 2-year anniversary. Last summer, when I was getting all antsy in my pantsies about getting engaged, I decided that I would wait until we’d been together for 2 years before I had a serious getting-engaged talk with him. I’ve since joined the V-day challenge, and a little glitch in my plan has recently presented itself! SO has been traveling for work a LOT lately, and he will be leaving again on Feb 8th or so. And won’t be back until the beginning of March! (sucks, I know) And he actually just got back from another work trip just yesterday.
So my question is this: Do you think I should bring it up before he goes out of town for 3.5 weeks, or continue to challenge my sanity until he gets back? (He won’t be traveling again for quite a while)
Another point of interest: When he travels, I pay his bills for him (with his money), so I have access to all his banking. i logged in while he was still gone, and noticed that he made a rather sizeable cash withdrawal that I have since heard nothing about……verrrrry interesting…..
Aaaaaaaaand discuss. (thanks in advance for your input, ladies!)
Post # 3
I would stick to it and not say a word. Especially because he made a cash withdrawal… I would think that could possibly indicate that he’s using it for a ring. Since no mention of it has been made and he knows you do his banking, in order to hide a purchase he would have to make it in cash. Of course, don’t get your hopes up too much, you know how men are. You don’t want to expect a proposal around a certain time and then feel crushed if it doesn’t happen. In the same respect, it sounds to me like he may be on the right track!
Have you talked at all in the past about engagement/marriage with him?
At this point, stick it out through V-day (and until he gets back from his trip), and then if you haven’t had any sort of timeline talk about engagement/marriage yet, then I would say it’s ok to bring it up in a calm and mature manner just to get an idea on where he stands.
Post # 4
Well I would wait until your anniversary on Feb.6 just in case he has plans for that. After that, I would discuss what you want to discuss since he won’t even be here for Valentines Day!
Post # 5
OH! I forgot to mention – I DID kind of have a feeling that there was going to be a holiday proposal, but then I broke my damn leg (!) and have been in a cast/on crutches since the beginning of Dec. I certainly don’t mind being proposed to whilst on crutches, but I can see why he might want to wait until I can walk like a normal person again, which incidentally should be right around V-day.
PurpleBee – I didn’t even THINK about the fact that the only way to hide a ring purchase would be by using cash! I kept thinking “what a dummy, did he think I wouldn’t see that?” But you’re right, it still leaves a little mystery whereas a jewelry store purchase wouldn’t. Excellent point!
And to answer your question, we have discussed marriage in the past, and we’re both on the same page. BUT! We have never discussed a timeline. That’s pretty much what I wanted to bring up. No ultimatums or anything, just sort of “Hey…..wtf is taking you so long, honey bun?”
I should ALSO add that one of the reasons I’m getting so antsy is that we both want a short engagement, and I would really like to get married this fall. But we live in a moderately-sized city, and venues and things book up quick, ya know??
Post # 6
@MademoiselleL: HA! Lady, you are the devil on my shoulder!!! 😉
Post # 7
@purplebee: I agree with you- good luck OP