Post # 1
So my hub-to-be and I looked at a house yesterday that is in a great neighborhood, way below what the houses on the street go for (but still not “cheap”) and needs a lot of work. It’s livable, but there is roofing that needs to be completely redone in the sunroom and leaks around the chimneys that need to be fixed. Thus, we are thinking about downsizing our nuptials. Let me rephrase- we NEED to downsize our nuptials.
As of now, we are booked at the Marriot for 200 ppl. We are thinking about making that 50 guests and a more cost-effective site, possibly even the backyard of the home we looked at (since we will be getting it.) I wish there was a big, huge, open, hilly field where I could set up a tent and go for it, without having to ask anyone!
I’m glad to say that I’m not heartbroken about the size change. I actually always wanted a more intimate wedding. My only regrets are about having to possibly lose money to a venue that we might not use- but I haven’t asked about just cutting the size there yet, either. Is there anyone else who is dealing with the same issue?? How are you dealing with it?
Post # 3
I understand your need to downsize, but one question—have you sent out save the date cards yet? If you have, then I would hesitate to send an invite to only a quarter of the guests who received a save the date.
Somewhere (advice column? Weddingbee?) lately I read a post from someone who had received a save the date, informed the couple she would be attending the wedding, made cross-country plane reservations, and then never received an invitation. When she called her friend the groom to inquire about the missing invitation, she was informed that she had been cut from the guest list because there wasn’t enough room in the venue. Needless to say, it didn’t sit well with the woman.
If you have sent out save the dates and you still want to downsize, then I suggest you inform all the guests who are not going to be on the new invite list of your changed plans just to make sure no one falls through the cracks.
Good luck with your new house (and new wedding plans!).
Post # 4
Thanks, I haven’t sent any out yet. We are in limbo right now…
Post # 5
If you haven’t sent out save the dates, then you still have time to change your plans. Is there anyone with a nice backyard that could help? Parents? Best friend? What about your new house? Losing your deposit money might be worth it if you’d save a lot by downsizing.
Post # 6
Well, how much are you looking at losing if you cancel with the Marriott? If the cost is nominal, I’d say cancel & set up at your new home. Paying for 200 people to party will cost a lot more than what you’re probably going to lose in deposit money AND your 50 person backyard wedding combined…
I say go for it.
This couple had one of the greatest backyard weddings: http://www.younghouselove.com/
Check it out for inspiration 🙂