(Closed) thinking about engagement is ruining other fun things!

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

@alwaysamaid: Ah I know what you mean, yesterday was my Birthday and while I didn’t exactly expect it to happen I was a little disappointed when he came with a tablet speaker dock and not the promise to spend the rest of his life with me. (not to mention the fact that I already have a speaker dock lol) WB is a big help, at least I’m not venting to every single one of my friends and SO lol. I feel your pain!

Post # 4
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Newbee

I hear ya…I am actually not looking forward to the holidays because I dont want to be dissapointed about no proposal. Same thing with our vacation coming up. For my bday/xmas gift, SO got me a fabulous romantic week in playa del carmen and i cant seem to get excited about it  :(……your not alone!

Post # 5
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115 posts
Blushing bee

Same here! I’m trying my hardest to be positive about Christmas, but it’s always in the back of my mind that I wish he would think about proposing instead of all the other things that I hear him talking about. My SO is completely untraditional, and I don’t ever think he would propose on a Holiday. I hate thinking that I just want Christmas to be over-with, but that’s how I feel some days. I’ve felt that way for awhile since we have spent 3 Christmas’ together already. I’m waiting for the time that we spend Christmas together as huband and wife one day!

I actually used the term “sucking the fun out of everything” just yesterday. You are not alone!

 

 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

My boyfriend and I have been together a bit over 6 years and for the last year or two every holiday, birthday, my college graduation, and vacation I have been expecting a ring. Finally, last year on our 5 year anniversary I finally told him that our relationship had an expiration date…and that date is December 31st. I made clear that I wasn’t waiting around forever, and I was just tired of being disappointed. Some say it’s ridiculous to give an ultimatum, but it’s something that’s important to me and I’m tired of waiting. So it’s December 8th and I know that I will be engaged by the end of this year, I know this by coming across emails and his little hints. Oh and if a single person says to me, “Finally” upon our engagement, they will not be invited to the wedding ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 7
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Blushing bee

@caits615:

Oh and if a single person says to me, “Finally” upon our engagement, they will not be invited to the wedding ๐Ÿ™‚

 

I love this!

Post # 8
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241 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Oh and if a single person says to me, “Finally” upon our engagement, they will not be invited to the wedding ๐Ÿ™‚

Hahaha…that is funny…I expect to hear the same thing from a lot of people.

 

It is a struggle to stay happy about your relationship and all the good things you have in your life when you are waiting for a proposal.  My SO flat out told me no holidays or special dates, so maybe I can enjoy those days for what they are and not expect a proposal.  The periods of time when i am not thinking about getting engaged/married, he seems to bring something up about it and I get stuck thinking about it all the time again.  I am not a patient person and I hate waiting on anything in life, so this is really not that fun to me…lol ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 9
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316 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I won’t be getting a ring for Christmas either, I agree it can be so frustrating. I’ve definitely been spending more time on WB lately to keep my mind off of it =). I hope you can still remember the things you enjoy about the holidays though, the time you spend waiting for a proposal will go much quicker if you’re still having fun together! Any chance he’s asking you what you want to throw you off?

Post # 10
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178 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Same here… I’m trying so hard to get in the Christmas spirit and be happy for the time with family but the constant back and forth about when we are going to finally be engaged  really is putting a sour taste on everything. I try to put it in the back of my mind but his constantly bring it up in one way or another doesn’t help. Then there’s the “what do you want for Christmas” loaded question. Then there will be new year and my birthday but no looking forward to either. Stinks!

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