Post # 32
I voted diamond. I have nothing against gemstones/nondiamond engagement rings but they just aren’t for me. However, I have seen many gorgeous nondiamond engagement rings on here and think they are beautiful and I love how they fit the person and their personality. But like I said, I wanted a diamond ring and due to allergies also wanted a platinum band which both meant spending more money and since we were both in college we needed to find a place where he could get a nice diamond but not spend a ton of money. My fiance got me a .83ct diamond ring with a platinum band for less than $4000 from James Allen. I highly recommend them. Here’s my ring in case you were interested in seeing it (and I love to show it off 🙂 )
That being said, this is going to be your ring and needs to be what you want and love. Good luck with your decision and congrats!!
Post # 33
thank you all for the responses, links and photos. i’ve been a busy bee following this board and have honestly gotta say– i think i’d be equally happy with either the moissy or the diamond! the actual carat weight doesnt seem to make that much of a difference (i have size 6 fingers).
there’s obvious pros and cons to both and i’m just going to let my man make the final call. He laughingly told me to get off the boards or he’ll buy me a ring made out of twine and popcorn.
So now im just “waiting” until we actually get engaged. I know i’ll be happy with whatever he chooses since it will mean I get to marry him!
I’ll be sure to post a pic of my ring whenever the time comes & let you know what he decided.
Post # 34
@mrsb2013: so I voted diamond and I’ll give you my perspective, since you asked. I would go with a diamond because .7 vs. 1 ct is really not a huge difference, and .7 is a good size! I have a 1ct cushion cut but those face up smaller and it probably looks to be around a .7 round. I never feel like its too small (and I have size 6.5 fingers so not tiny by any means). So I guess I think if your almost-fiance is willing to buy you a beautiful diamond ring– you should take it! The reason I’d choose this OVER moissanite are as follows:
1- Moissanite is still new-ish on the scene as an engagement ring material, and the enhancement is very new on the scene. I want to make sure that my ring sparkles for my grandchildren like it did the day my husband gave it to me… and I’d worry about a moissanite lasting 100 years because the enhanced ones they sell today haven’t been around half that long.
2- I would feel uncomfortable with the whole “is it or isn’t it” question from people. I’d feel like I was lying if I didn’t come out and tell them what it is… but I’d worry about people thinking my husband was trying to pull one over on me by giving me a stone that looks like a diamond but isn’t (I recognize that people’s prejudices shouldn’t have any effect on me, but they do. That’s just me. Other people are stronger).
3- It isn’t a diamond. I know about De Beers. I know it is all just programing and I’m brainwashed and whatever.. but an engagement ring is an emotional purchase. I WANT a diamond. I want it because its what my mom and grandma had and because what I’ve thought about since I was a kid. I want it because its thousands of years old. I want it for the same reason people will buy a real picasso painting rather than spending $100 for a really great knock-off from the local art school. It doesn’t make sense, it isn’t rational, and it isn’t fiscally responsible… but an engagement ring is one of a very few things in my life that I gave myself permission to be totally emotional about and to me, I want a diamond.
So… that’s just me. I think in the end it is personal. As you see most of my reasons are just about me and my emotions, so if you feel differently then rock what you decide. But, you asked for a diamond-voter’s opinion, so there it is 🙂
ETA: sorry! i had the window up and didn’t see that you were kind of done looking for opinions… but its already there so I’ll leave it.
Post # 35
@mrsb2013: That is so exciting! Can’t wait to see the ring you get!
Post # 36
I voted moissanite– my ring is a diamond because I had never heard of moissanite. if I could turn back time, I would have asked for a moissy instead!
I would rather my ring be durable, but not be expensive. it will have sentimental value. if I lose or damage it, I would be sad at the loss of a sentimental gift, but I would not be sad about the lost value. honestly, I don’t think expensive diamonds are worth the cost.
Post # 37
@mrsb2013: Im so excitted for you! And I can’t wait to see what he decides to get you!! Congrats in advance!!
Post # 38
I voted moissy. Diamonds just don’t do it for me. They are insanely overpriced for not being rare at all, and everyone has one. If I was rocking a moissy I’d be proud to have something different.
Post # 39
If this were my choice, I would pick a diamond for the following reasons:
Despite the attractiveness of the price, personally, I would feel like a fraud or feel the need to explain. With something that shiny on your finger and attracting that much attention, it’s too personally draining to have to explain/justify to everyone what it is. If people didn’t ask and assumed it was a diamond, I would feel like a fraud.
There’s no reason to get enhancements to make it whiter, or check if there is color in certain situations or whether it is changing color, if I were not, in some small way, trying to pass it off as something it was not.
Plus, yes, I know all diamond folk are brainwashed and all that, but to me, having something so precious and special and well, flat-out expensive makes me feel differently than about something that didn’t cost me and my fiance as much. I know diamonds are not all that rare and everyone likely has one. However, in my culture, I grew up valuing diamonds. To have something that looks similar but isn’t a diamond just doesn’t make sense to me. I would feel like a fraud… but that’s just how I feel about moissy erings. Moissy anything else! I could definitely be up for. But people expect a colorless ering stone to be a diamond, and I would always know that it wasn’t.
Post # 40
Mrs.B2013, have you decided yet?
Post # 41
@janie-janie: This. My stone (diamond) was passed down to us from my family. I didn’t even know moissanite existed until joining WB. Now I’m completely sold on it- if things had been different & I’d chosen my own stone knowing about moissy, I for sure would have gone with it. I’m actually toying with the idea of “upgrading” to one larger than my diamond in 5-10 years, and saving the diamond to pass on to my children.
I honestly would not feel my ring was any less special if/when it were to have a moissy instead of a diamond (= money only). Oh- and IMO having it enhanced does not nessessarily mean you are trying to fool people. It means you want a colorless/white stone. The same could be said for white sapphire erings. Everyone has a right to thier personal preference in thier ering stone. I love them all- I drool over every kind of gemstone really, I want one of everything!
Post # 42
@mrsb2013: Be sure and post a pic when it happens! Hope you don’t have to wait long Whatever you choose, I wanna see that ring porn!!
Post # 43
Hello again ladies!
first of all, thanks again for all your help on this board. Today the SO asked me if I was “still happy with Moissanite?” because he could be “ordering one soon!” ::insert happy dance:::
i told him yes, I would be very happy with a moissy. he then said if i knew of any special considerations I’d have to make with a moissy vs. a diamond (like cleaning, any ways to ruin the gem, or concerns about it turning brown (? he read this online somewhere?). He just wants to make sure that there arent any unforseen costs down the line.
i know a lot of people said they talked with moissaniteco customer service and asked alot of questions. did anyone ask any of these questions and know the answers? or ask anything else relevant?
i want to reassure him but alas, customer service is offline now. we are both in school during the day when customer service is online, so if no one knows these answers, ill just send them an email… but i thought id check the boards since you guys really know your stuff.
[p.s. sorry i always seem to write novels on here!]
Post # 44
I’m not an expert, but I think if you get an enhanced moissanite you need to tell the jeweler who cleans it to ensure the extreme heat doesn’t screw up the enhancement. I’m pretty sure I heard that.
Moissanite shouldn’t turn colours like brown (maybe if you are wearing brown, sitting on a brown couch, that is sitting on brown carpet in a brown room) unless it’s recut.
There was one poster on here who said her mother’s older moissanite turned yellow after years of wear, but I’ve never read of that happening and some people (other posters) were concerned that it may not be an actual moissanite. Can’t say for sure.
Post # 45
@mrsb2013: I’ve heard on here that if you buy moissy-get it enhanced. It will give you peace of mind with the whiteness of the stone. I don’t know much about it either but from what I see enhanced looks beautiful. I also have read that they will never change color like CZ, I too read the post about that woman’s mother’s ring. I have a feeling it wasn’t true moissanite.
So excited for you! Post pics once you get it!
Post # 46
You could always get the moissanite and set it in a really elaborate band. You will be able to have a larger center stone but also have the luxury of diamonds.