(Closed) Thinking about not getting a wedding band…

posted 9 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2008

Your engagement ring is gorgeous, and looks great on its own.  And you know what? Having another ring doesn’t make you any more or any less married– it’s just more metal on your finger.  What are your reasons for not wanting to go without?  Just that people won’t automatically know that you’re married?

You have plenty of time to make this decision, so don’t fret too much.  It also might be worth seeing if your jeweler would let you wear the ring for a day or two, to see if it “grows” on you.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

Your Engagement Ring is fabulous!!! Congrats! 

Regarding not getting a wedding ring, i think I would hold on off that decision for at least a little while.  The first few times we looked at wedding rings we were disappointed too. But in the end, we just decided to have a band custom made.  We are SO happy that we did! Don’t worry – you will find something that you love! 

FYI: I really like the ring that goes with your Engagement Ring (the second posted pic ) but I understand that it is a personal decision and YOU have to love it!  Keep looking and don’t rule out custom work!

Post # 5
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10218 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

i think you’d be fine without one.. if you are really looking though, definitely check lord of the gem rings (great reviews on pricescope) and they have an ebay store

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

You could do two very thin ones, one on either side.

Otherwise, don’t get a band if you don’t want one. People will know you’re married if they see your So with you. Plus, lots of women only wear one ring nowadays–I notice it a lot and unless they’re really young, I just assume they like to wear the one. I have a friend who just prefers delicate jewelry and only wanted the one band.

Post # 7
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3281 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I am totally with you on this one! I love thin bands and personally, I think it would be kinda uncomfy to have 2 rings on one little ol finger lol. I am probably the minority on this one but I say just rock the engagement ring! Thats what I plan on doing, we will probably get me an inexpensive wedding band and I will wear my e-ring most of the time. But If we go somewhere where I dont want to risk losing it or something, bam! on goes the wedding band!

Hope this helps and good luck with your decision!!

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I am also not getting a band to go with e-ring. For me, I love the look of my e-ring without it. As far as people not knowing your married-many people won’t even realize you don’t have a band. I have people compliment my e-ring now and ask how long i’ve been married…and i’m not! Plus when your out with hubby, he will have his band on.

I say keep looking to make sure you aren’t missing out something you might actually want, but don’t feel awkward without it just b/c most people have them. Go with your heart.

Post # 10
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3281 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@crebre- oh my gosh, thanks a lot for introducing me to “lord of gem”!!! How am I gonna keep my mouth closed on this one! lol

Post # 12
Hostess
18637 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I think that is a good idea to have it sort of as a ring that you will wear later on.  You might not want to wear your diamond ring when you go out of the country on trips or if you ever have kids.  I’ve heard a lot of people who don’t want to wear their engagement ring after having kids since the higher prongs are more likely to hurt the kids.  I don’t see any problem with not wearing a bad every day.  Even if it is considered ‘nontraditional’ there are a lot of nontraditional things that people are doing now so it’s almost becoming traditional!

Post # 13
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271 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

My soon to be “step sister- in law” (its a mouthful) has an engagement ring that has a really wide band, and she has petite fingers, so she wears her wedding band on her right hand and it looks greatt. It almost is obvious that she wouldn’t wear a band with the e-ring…so you know that the band on her right hand is clearly her wedding band ๐Ÿ™‚  So many choices!  I actually love my wedding band with my e-ring, I think it highlights my solitaire.

Post # 15
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: November 2010

So glad I found this post. Great to read all the opinions. I was/am in the same position. I love my engagement ring and when I tried on wedding bands with it it just didn’t look as nice. My partner also agreed the band took away the beauty of the engagement ring I already have. So I am just going with one ring. I was also concerned and encouraged by my mother-in-law that people will not know i’m married with only one ring and that I may regret later not getting one. But I used to work with a girl who only had one ring, she said she did get asked on occasion if she were married or engaged, but she didn’t care. Guys only have to wear one ring, so should we! It eventually felt insane to be looking for another ring to compliment the already great ring I have and to spend more money just because it’s tradition. I know i’ll be married, as will all our friends and family at the wedding. That’s the main thing, so it shouldn’t matter that I won’t have “the wedding band” to prove it. Everyone is different though. You hopefully only get married once, so you gotta do what feels right for you. If that means getting a band just for the day and wearing it on another hand or not at all later, then you should do it.

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