Post # 1
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Blushing bee
Hi Bees! I am after your valuable opinions again (how do people even plan weddings without wedding bee?). A few members of our bridal party are one of a couple, their partner not really knowing any of our other guests (small wedding with 70ppl). I know that the times where I have either been on the head table, or been the partner of someone on the head table, a part of me would’ve liked to have been seated with my partner. So I was thinking of either not having a head table at all, or, having partners seated at the head table.
The wedding details (if it helps):
My reception is a casual buffet dinner at a seafood restaurant overlooking the ocean. My theme will be classy, but not overly formal (could you say smart-casual?).
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
@DeeWee: Go for it! A lot of people do a sweetheart table and skip a wedding party table.
Post # 4
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Busy bee
@DeeWee: Have a sweetheart table with just you and your husband and let the wedding party sit with their SO. We are having a sweetheart table. I don’t think it’s a big deal at all!
Post # 5
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Busy bee
I’m not having a head table or a sweetheart table!
Post # 6
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Helper bee
We won’t be having a head table. Just a sweetheart table, and our bridal party and families sitting at the tables closest to us.
Post # 7
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Helper bee
We’re not having a head table OR a sweetheart table as we don’t find either of them necessary.
Do what you want!
Post # 8
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Wannabee
@DeeWee: We’re probably going to have a sweetheart table for exactly the same reason. I don’t want to split up couples where one person is in our wedding party, but seating our wedding party and their SO’s at a head table would require a very long table (too long, IMO).
Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
I went to a wedding once with an ex who was in the bridal party. I loved what the bride/groom did. They had a sweetheart table and the two tables on either side of them were the bridal party tables. The BMs were on the side of the bride, with their partners; the GMs were on the side of the groom, with their partners. I thought that was perfect.
Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
The last three weddings I was in or went to had sweetheart tables, and the wedding party sat with their guests at one of the regular tables.
The head table, when you have brought someone is kind of annoying. The last one I was in that had a head table, we all just went up there to get our food and pulled chairs up to the table our S/O’s were sitting at and ate with them. It worked out that the bride and groom were the only people sitting at this huge long table. We had a sweetheart table, but we had a few extra chairs around and our FG’s all brought their plates to sit up with us… it was cute.
Post # 11
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Sugar bee
We are doing a sweetheart table. Doing a head table just got too complicated, and we have a small, casual wedding anyway.
Post # 12
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Bumble bee
we did a sweetheart table. It was great. We got to have a few minutes together on a very busy and hectic day. I really enjoyed having that time to sit with my new husband.
Post # 13
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Busy bee
We’re not having one – I don’t like the idea of being on show. We are just sitting at a table in amongst all the other tables and will have bridal party spouses sit with us. I hate being in a wedding and not being able to sit with Fiance.
Post # 14
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Helper bee
We aren’t having a head table either! Most of our wedding party has families I’m sure they would love to sit with instead of (for some of them) sitting with people they only know through Fiance or I!
Post # 15
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Blushing bee
What an awesome idea, a sweetheart table! So gunna do this! Thank you!
Post # 16
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Bumble Beekeeper
I’ve never been to a wedding with a head table. Most have sweetheart tables or the bride and groom is with family.
