(Closed) Thinking about not having Bridesmaids/Groomsmen

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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223 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Maybe you should bluntly ask her if she wants to do it. She is giving you a vibe that she doesn’t want to and doesn’t care – so maybe it’s the truth, but she would feel bad to say no to her sister.

My best friend in the world was in my wedding party since the outset, and we got engaged about a month apart from each other. She promptly told me that she was not having a traditional wedding or even a ceremony, just a brunch reception, and that there was no wedding party or readings (so no role for me whatsoever). I was fine with that, because she isn’t one to have a big to-do.

So when my knee-jerk reaction was to invite her to be in my wedding party, I didn’t really take into consideration that she… well… didn’t really want to be in it. She called me a few months later and apologetically asked me if she could back out. I said, sure. I don’t want you to be in my wedding if you don’t want to be. Our friendship is just fine.

You may be doing her a favor if you give her the chance to back out gracefully – maybe offer her a chance to do a reading at the ceremony or give a speech at the reception if she still wants to feel like she is playing a part.

BMs should make your wedding more fun, not less fun!

Post # 4
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73 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

UGH, I am so sorry honey.

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