(Closed) Thinking about pulling out of having a destination wedding…. (please help)

posted 7 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

This was the exact reason Fiance and I decided to forego our Destination Wedding plans. We were all gung-ho and then found out that basically my entire family wouldn’t be able to attend (with the exception of my parents). Under no circumstances could I get married without those people there so we changed our plans. What made it not quite so bad for us was that we decided to still honeymoon in Bermuda (where we were going to get married). 

As someone who was planning a Destination Wedding and then cancelled it to appease her family, I can honestly tell you that we made the right decision for us. However, every couple is different and you and your Fiance may have different values than we do. To us, a wedding isn’t just about the couple, its about our families as well. It was more important for us to share our wedding day with those closest to us than get married in some tropical location. You can visit your Destination Wedding wedding location whenever you want but you’ll never be able to relive your wedding day.

I understand that your situation will be trickier since your family has already put some money down but since its 7 months away, is it possible to get the money back? Also, 7 months may not seem like long but 2 of my best friends were engaged and married within 6 months or less so it can certainly be done. 

Whatever you decide to do, just make sure that you both are happy with the decision. 

ETA: We’re planning on renewing our vows on our 10 year anniversary in Bermuda. I know it doesn’t help the current situation but maybe something like that could work for you guys.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

How long have you been planning and how much money has been spent. When we made the announcement for our Semi-DW we knew right away who could swing it and who couldn’t. It does suck if they were all on board and then all of a sudden said they couldn’t go, thats part of what helps make the decision in the first place.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

oops double post

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

@disneybride11: If the monies refundable and its important for your Fiance to have his family present then it seems like a no brainer to me…

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

We are planning a destination wedding, and my love is on board.  I’m already regretting it.  There are so many people who really want to be there, but they just can’t swing it. 

If you will miss those ppl I say cut your loss.  If it wasn’t for losing the deposits I would do the same.

Goodluck

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@disneybride11: If you’re going to miss these people being there and the money is refundable I say cancel :/

Luckily for us the people we want there will be there.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I agree w/CaitMarae … seems like you know it’s important to him to have his family there. 

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I would choose to have a wedding where more family could be involved. Are you going to Disney? The most amazing place on the planet!! That would be such a fun honeymoon location, if you choose to have an at-home wedding! You could always renew your vows there later on! Best of luck with making your decision! 🙂

Post # 11
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Worker bee

Personally I’d do the wedding I dreamed of having…so many keep sayin ‘it’s my day’ and to that extent it is and if my heart was set on some destination I’d do it even if it meant some not making it (I’d probably elope though and maybe plan parents there and whatever close friend to stand up with me, she owes me anyway after being in 2 weddings of hers and that might be it).

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

@Marathongirl04: I’m going to agree somewhat with this. We cancelled our huge wedding and had a tiny very intimate wedding with only our nearest and dearest.

Sometimes its ok to do what you want, but you also need to make sure its what your FH wants as well. I never would have been able to cancel everything w/o DH’s support.

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Sorry about that situation! Unfortunately this is when you have to make a decision of what is most important for you.

Personally, I would look into having a small intimate destination wedding and then throwing a bigger reception back home.

But if it’s important to you to have all your family next to you, cancel the destination wedding and start re-planning. I don’t think you’ll have so much fun on your wedding day if you spend it regretting that not more people could make it!

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@disneybride11:As I discovered once I joined weddingbee last month, every Destination Wedding bride goes through this “crossroads”. For us, our romantic wedding in a faraway place was most important and having a few friends and family there would be nice. Of course I wished we had decided to just elope (with the full tux and gown and reception dinner for two) instead of fighting tooth and nail to get the most important friends and family there. But we prevailed and we have a small party of 20 guests and I am now completey happy with it. Everybody that has commited is VERY EXCITED, and those that can’t go – will see how happy we are in photos and video. It is really what is most important to you and your fiance. Good luck!

 

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(Closed) Thinking about pulling out of having a destination wedding…. (please help)

posted 7 years ago in Destination Weddings