(Closed) Thinking about scrapping it all and running off to the beach!

posted 6 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

We cancelled our wedding because we couldnt take the stress anymore. No one cared about what we wanted and it was just too much. Granted I dont have kids, so I know it has to be worse for you. But we were talking about going to a beach just the two of us. And having a “BBQ” when we get back.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

We arent doing that but I truly wish we would just elope. Wedding planning for me has been so freakin stressful and overrated just for one day.

Wish you luck with what ever decision you make

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Sounds wonderful. I love small intimate weddings especially bbq’s!!

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

That’s exactly what we’re doing too.  8 people (including us) going away for a small intimate wedding and then BBQ when we get back.  We tried planning a big reception but the stress was literally sucking the life out of me.  It was like a lightbulb going off when I thought “WTH, the ceremony is the important part!” and while I was canceling the venues, DJs, caterers, I felt this overwhelming relief.  Now I’m really excited, not nervous and stressed.

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2012

YES!  for religipus reasons, things just got waaaaay too complicated with my catholic need to marry in a church, and his parents jehovah’s witness refusal of walking into any building of worship :/ 

So!  Fiance and I decided just he and I would run off to any place in the world to marry…and we decided on Cancun, in the vatican approved glass chapel on the beach.  I really think it was the best decision…since no one is attending, his parents won’t look horrible for not going.  the resort is providing witnesses and everything.  planning has been awesome (read:  once we booked, that’s all the planning there was to it!), and we can’t wait πŸ™‚

trust your gut!  if a “planned elopement” is what you want, go for it πŸ™‚

 

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Lorsee:  Wow, I never thought I’d see another Catholic/JW relationship (however our’s did not work out).  He was just converting and I was his 1 night last “hurrah” and we ended up conceiving a child.  Really, she is living breathing proof that it only takes once.  Back story – we had been good friends for 4 years and were snowed it.  Really the setting couldn’t be more romantic.  After that, he started studying with the JW’s, but still wanted to marry me.  It didn’t end up working out for us because he got more and more involved with his group, which only drove me deeper and deeper into my Faith.  We’re still friends 18 years later and he has a great relationship with our daughter.  He’s married now with 2 young kids and I’m getting married in September.

I think your decision was spot on!  No need bringing all that stress and drama into it.  The important part is the ceremony and the two of you – no one else.

Edit:  Meant I thought I’d never see…

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

my wedding only has 11 guests, on a beach. reception dinner is just a sit-down simple no cake no frills dinner πŸ™‚

it’s definitely much easier to plan and much more intimate imo.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@DevBrown05:  My thoughts exactly.  That is exactly what we are doing.  Exactly.  πŸ˜‰

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@NewMrsAnderson:  Wow!  that is quite a story you have πŸ™‚  It sounds like all has worked out for the best, and your daughter benefits from the mature way you guys handles all of this.  Good job!  I like to think both you and I could have had disasterous situations…but we figured out a way to make lemonade with our lemons πŸ™‚  Good luck with your September wedding!  I’m right behind you in October.

Post # 15
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2013

It’s you & your FI’s special day…so I say do what would truly make the two of you the happiest…don’t worry about what others want….it’s not their day, it’s yours. I think it’s a fabulous idea to run off with your man & your close friends/family, the people that really mean a lot to you. And those are the same people that just want you to be happy & will celebrate with you no matter where the wedding is or how big it is. And having a big party/get together when you get home is never a bad thing:) Good luck making the decision! Regardless, I’m sure you & your man will live “happily ever after” πŸ™‚

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

We are running off to our “planned elopement” with about 20 family members including our (13.5 month old at the time of the wedding). We wanted something small, romantic, and exotic. We have been engaged for four years and never tied the knot because we couldn’t find that “us” location until we decided to do a destination wedding.

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