(Closed) Thinking about stopping BCP…I'm not TTC

posted 6 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
255 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

After I went off pills my cycle was mostly regular but not as predictable as pills. Sex drive did seem to improve a bit, but unfortunately my acne came back =( I’m 24 and just started the mirena IUD a few months ago because I was worried about pill side effects like you are.

Post # 4
172 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I was in a similar boat. I kept throwing it up etc. I’ve been off it for two years now. Not ttc. We use rhythm and pullout method. Despite popular belief (used in my opinion, and perhaps rightfully so, to scare teens) it works amongst responsible adults who do it right. 


My sex drive has slightly decreased but only ever so slightly and my periods are SO regular. I wouldn’t try rhythm until yours are. And try an iPhone period tracker app. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 6
255 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@PinkElephants21:  The mirena has been good so far, no periods anymore which is an expected side effect and no having to remember a pill! However I get occasional cramps while I’m running (apparently my uterus is smaller than average =/ so it’s a snug fit for the device). be warned, the insertion does hurt more if you have not given birth before due to anatomical reasons.

Post # 7
202 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I’ve been using a simmilar rhythm/pull-out combo too (for 3 years now) and I love it @queencharlotte04:  what app do you use to track, do you just count days or track CM or temp too?

@PinkElephants21:  The pill made me so so so not frisky at all, once I went off it sex became so much more enjoyable and I was regular within just a couple cycles. I don’t know if it really helps but raspberry leaf tea is supposed to aid in getting your cycle regular again and in easing cramps.

The pill is fine for some people but I think that the side-effects can become something of a new-normal, coming off of the pill was an incredible experience for me – sex was fun again and lube became unnecessary, i felt very stable and clear headed, i stopped retaining water in my face (and got cheekbones!) and my skin actually became clearer. The only slight disadvantage is that my chest fluctuates with my cycle like crazy – my boobies are tiny for most of the month and then fill back out to the size they were with the pill just before my period. 


Post # 8
394 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@PinkElephants21:  We are definitely not TTC but I can’t be on HBC because of medical issues (neurological issues + family history of stroke = not good). For now we’re just using condoms and are thinking about adding that to the rhythm method. I’m also looking at a copper IUD and if not I will consider going back on HBC because to us the health risk is less scary than the baby risk. Everytime I’ve gotten off HBC my periods have been super messed up (last time I bled/spotted for 2-3 months!) but after that my periods were normal. When I was on Nuvaring it actually made my periods worse (2x as long as normal). Everyone’s body is diff. I would talk to your doctor and see what you think is best. 

Post # 9
3277 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010


I came of The Pill because my husband had a vasectomy.

It took more than six months for my period to return and now that they have, my periods have been very heavy thus far. I also have not suffered from PMS like I did when I was taking The Pill.

My sex drive is still very high as usual. Being on The Pill and Depo when I was younger never dampened my desires.

Post # 10
1423 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I went off the pill — it made sex sooo much better.  I was on it for so long, that I didn’t realize the effect it was having on me. There’s a bit more of a chance of accidently getting pregnant, but I’m older and married and am financially in a good place to have kiddos now if it happens.  So, I’m more than happy to make that tradeoff.

It might also be worth trying different pills to see if that makes a difference.  The side effects can be different pill to pill.  But, if you don’t like it there are lots of other good contraceptive methods — the pill is nice, but not perfect. 

Post # 11
1073 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@PinkElephants21:  I took BCP when I was younger and my body responded horribly to them (i.e. water rentention, mood swings), so I stopped taking them and went on the Nuvaring. I was on the NR for about 7 years and just went off this past August after my wedding. I was just so over hormonal BC at that point. I didn’t like what it did to my body or mind. My husband and I are now using the POM and I am charting. I will never take hormonal BC ever again. I would suggest reading the book Taking Charge of Your Fertility. It provides useful information for people like myself that do not want to take horomonal BC, but are not quite yet ready for pregnancy. My advice is to listen to you body. You know it better than anyone else. Hope it all works out for you. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 12
578 posts
Busy bee

I got off BCP for similar reasons. I hated having to take artificial hormones, and did not want to keep doing that to my body. I got off them, and now we use condoms and POM while we are working through the kinks of charting. I agree that you should read Taking Charge of Your Fertility. I am currently reading it, and it is very helpful. I love having my body and my hormones back to normal

Post # 13
292 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@PinkElephants21:  I also stopped BC after being on it for a long time. I was having some really crappy side effects and decided it just wasnt worth it anymore after trying many different pills. The worst was the low sex drive. I stopped it in August of 2012 and the sex drive came back up pretty quickly. The only problem I really had was that my periods were kind of irregular for about a year. They would sometimes last 2 weeks sometimes 3 days. I was on the pill for so long though that I never realized all the effects it was having on me.

Post # 15
7977 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

I had an implanon/nexaplon implant, which is great. It is still hormonal though, so it only works if your issue is with the oestrogen in the pill, not the progesterone.

If you think implanon could work for you, why don’t you try the POP for a few months and see if that solves the problem? If it’s all good, you could switch to the POP permanently, or else get an implant.

Post # 16
2142 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I was on Bridal Party, partly for health reasons (PCOS), and I hated it so much. (And this was on the ‘good’ BC, let’s not even talk about being on Yasmin) I had no sex drive, constant brain fog, and was needlessly weepy/emotional. I got off it and felt a lot better, and also lost the 15 pounds I had been hanging onto the whole time I was on it! I tried going back on a couple times, and just felt shitty again almost right away. It’s always worth talking to your doctor though, and make sure you’re well-protected!

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