- 6 years ago
- Wedding: February 2013
I have been thinking a lot about traditions that go along with weddings and how/whether we will incorporate them. I want to focus on the words of a wedding ceremony.
We don’t have our officiant yet, but I do know that my dad (a minister in the US) will be assisting whoever we get to do our wedding. In NZ, you have to have a registered wedding celebrant do the wedding, otherwise it isn’t legal. I always thought my Dad would be the one to marry me and my fiance, but that’s had to change a bit. So we’ll have two people up there. The traditional wedding vows are what we are going to do because I don’t want to write my own vows or ask my writing-fearing fiance to do the same. I have come across a couple ideas that I am in love with. First is an updated version of the ring exchange vows that are really meaningful and especially to me as I am making a new country my home far from my family.
With this ring, I give you my heart. I promise from this day forward you shall not walk alone. May my heart be your shelter and my arms be your home.
I also found another part that suggested the guests participate and make a vow to always support the couple. A serious call to be a witness to the marriage. (I just looked for the text, but I can’t find it on Pinterest…I must have it saved somewhere else on my computer).
We’re also probably going to have a brass instrument version of something from Lord of the Rings for our recessional…my fiance asked his dad to do that and I’m totally okay with it. It’s also semi-appropriate since we live in NZ! There are a lot of wedding traditions that I am rejecting out of hand however. We’re not doing a unity candle, giving flowers to mums or having any readings in the ceremony. We’e also not doing all the cheesey things at the reception. We will have a first dance, cut the cake (but not smash it), and let a few people do speeches, but we really want our wedding to be about us. We are relaxed, casual people who enjoy food and a good time. So we’re having a great meal and a small wedding so we can spend time with the people we love.
What traditions are absolute must-haves for you?