Post # 1
How much extra effort in looking after the extra dog (we both work full time btw).
Background: I have a dog. He’s 2 years old, but to be honest a disappointment. Very independent personality and pretty much ignores us half the time! He prefers to run around outside than stay in with us, or sleeps in the corner (vet says he is health, so nothing actually wrong with him!)
We have fostered for short periods of time (a week here and there) dogs from a local rescue. The current dog is very sweet girl dog,affectionate and looks like my childhood dog. I felt an instant connection with her and the last three days I had her, I was excited to come home to her.
She fits in pretty well and gets along fine with my dog. the problem is, I know I am a person with a short attention span. I rushed to get the first dog and made a huge mistake. Im scared of acting irresponsible in accepting a new dog. To add to it, someone is already very keen to adopt her interstate. I don’t want to hold this dog back but at the same time, i dont want to lose a great dog! Out of all the ones I fostered, she is the one I have loved the most.
Post # 2
The second dog is significantly harder but if you’re able to foster one while having your own I don’t see how different it would be. Our foster dogs are always so much more difficult than our own dogs!
Do you have a back yard? That makes things easier. Also with “rushing” into dogs…it’s all I’ve ever done. I knew my dogs were mine within a day or so of fostering them.
Post # 3
Your first dog sounds great. Nice and easy and non demanding 🙂
for me the jump from 2 to 3 dogs is more of a shift from 1 to 2.
It sounds like your foster has stolen your heart.
If the costs of vets/feeding/kennels for her is ok for you then why not have her.
Dont under estimate your first dog. A balanced peaceful dog is a blessing and provides a wonderful environment for your fosters.
Post # 4
Thanks for sharing. Yes, foster dogs are hard – the first few days especially when they settle in. But we find after awhile we get into a routine that works for everyone.
I found your comment that you knew they were yours within a day interesting. Can you explain how you knew? What thought process did you go to in deciding to keep it? Did you ever think you were being sillly because you already had dog/s, or selfish because it would mean you couldn’t foster new dogs? Or scared because its such a long commitment – like 10-15 years per dog. I’m mid 20s and DH is 30 so kids could be coming into the picture in the next few years as well..cant help but think how busy that would be.
We have got a back yard they can run and play in. But in the future, it may reduce in size to a 400m2 yard, which is a bit concerning (want to move closer to work to reduce the 45 min each way commute, but land is so expensive).
Post # 5
We have three dogs. With every single one of them, I was excited to get them and then basically had a nervous breakdown after thinking I made the wrong decision. Within a couple days though that feeling faded and they’re really not that much more work. The biggest factor with our second dog was his size, our other two are little, there are extra considerations with adding a big dog that we didn’t have to think about before we got him. Adding the third was easy once they got past the introduction stage.
Post # 6
We got both our dogs together, so I am not sure how different it would be with them being years apart…but at first, it was difficult and frustrating. They were seriously like children, but once they got older- I couldn’t picture it any other way and I don’t think i’d ever just have one dog. My boys together are the sweetest things ever, they love us, they love each other, etc. The downside is going to be when one of them passes before the other, it’s going to be extremely hard on us and the other dog.
Post # 7
I just added one velcro-attached puppy to my existing velcro-attached dog, two puppies in one year. Now THAT is a lot. As the other poster said, a non-demanding dog is a blessing in its own way. You could definitely manage a second dog depending on the age, exercise level, and social requirements. Could you tell us more about that little girl dog you’ve fallen in love with? (Breed, age, etc.)
Post # 8
My fiancé and I each had our own dog when we started dating, so now that we live together we have two. I was really worried that the dogs would have a hard time but we have been living together 6+ months with no issues. I think the age and temperament of both dogs helps determine how easy it will be. Our dogs were 5 and 1.5 when we moved in together. If you have two dogs (or even one) that is territorial about anything that would be hard. Good luck!
Post # 9
We had our first dog for almost 9 years when we got our second. Honestly I had anxiety about the thought of adding a second dog but she literally fell into our lap as a rescue from our neighborhood.
For us the transition was super easy and I’ve found having two really isn’t much harder than one, but that could also just be our dogs. We have labs, which are generally really easy going dogs and known for loving everyone and being adaptable. Our older one who we’ve had since she was a puppy is super mellow and low maintenance and she LOVES everyone and other dogs. The second dog came to us when she was about 6, and of course was already house broken and also loves people. She was a good listener right off the bat and they took to each other very quickly.
Post # 10
I love having two dogs and I dont think I would have it any other way! My husband and I adopted them both at the same time (they are sisters) and at first it was a little overwhelming having two 3 month old puppies, but really they keep eachother entertained a lot of the time and we dont feel guilty leaving them home by themselves.
If the dog you are fostering gets along with your dog then that is a big hurdle out of the way and I dont think it will be difficult having them both.
Post # 11
I have 3 dogs and going from 1 to 2 is definitely a change. But if you’ve been fostering, it won’t be any different. If you don’t keep this dog there are a jillion dogs out there that need a home, as you know. I feel kinda bad for your 1st dog, though, and wouldn’t want him to be forgotten. All my dogs are weird, one is aloof like yours, but they’re not disappointments at all. I love em! (one does have major behavioral problems)
Post # 12
I don’t know how I knew with my girl. I guess it was love at first sight! She fit in with my personality and energy level. I knew with my boy when someone tried to adopt him. It was just heartbreaking for both my fiancé and I and we decided to adopt him ourselves. I definitely thought it was silly for the second one but I couldn’t let him go. 2 years later (two years tomorrow actually!) and I know we made the right choice.
I’m also mid 20’s but we’re CFBC so that wasn’t a concern or even a thought for us. We’ve always lived in apartments so that did make it harder but we assumed we’d be in a house by now (2 years ago I never thought I’d be back in school).
Post # 13
I’m surprised at the comments saying 1 to 2 is hard. Aside from the financial obligations, I thought it was the easiest thing I’ve ever done.
My dog, Shiner, is very much like your first dog. We joke that he’s a cat trapped in a dog’s body and he mostly prefers his own company and stimulation. Some dogs are just independent – please don’t consider that to be a ‘disappointment’.
We added Rebel after a year with Shiner and Rebel is the polar opposite. Needy, always wants to play and be in my lap. And, as an added bonus, he helped to bring Shiner closer to the family. Shiner was the one who coaxed Rebel, as a scared puppy, out from under the bed or behind the couch and brought him to me and my Fiance. He basically told Rebel ‘Hey, these people are alright.’ He also helped housebreak Rebel. They keep one another company while Fiance and I are at work, and even though Shiner would rather play ball by himself he still loves Rebel and the two are very bonded to one another.
If this foster dog already fits in with your life, and you have the means to cover vet care, food, toys, etc. then there’s no reason not to add her into your life, permanently.
Post # 14
I will have to say that often times, dogs don’t really “act like dogs” until another one is added to the mix. Sometimes, that’s a great thing, sometimes not so much. My girlfriend had 2 60-ish pound dogs when we met, and we are now living together. These dogs are very much bonded, but the only time they want to play (wrestle, play tug of war, jump all over each other while growling and barking loudly) is smack dab in the middle of the living room. They also can get after each other and fight over toys/bones/treats, etc. If you find that sort of thing frustrating (which to be honest, I do), then a 2nd dog may not be for you.
Post # 15
We’very got 4 kids, 2 dogs and 3 cats in our home. I can’t live without my fur babies.