Post # 1
So wedding plans are just starting. For several reasons I’ve been thinking elopement might be a really great option for us. FH is canadian and I’m american so a simple wedding where we can start establishing residency etc. will be handy.
Honestly I have 6 people on my side that I would really need to be there. My parents, my brother and my three best friends. I’ve already asked my 3 best friends to be my bridesmaids (thinking at first we’d have a larger wedding).
So if we do elope I’m wondering what to do with my bridesmaids. Do I downgrade them to ‘the audience’? Do I keep my Maid/Matron of Honor and ask the other two girls to not be in the ceremony? How does this work? I’d love to keep them as my bridesmaids but it seems strange to me in a elopement where maybe 14 people are there to have so many bridesmaids.
I appreciate any advice! This website has been a godsend!
Post # 3
For an elopement, you’d probably down-grade everyone and have your Maid/Matron of Honor sign the marriage license. You can still probably give the other BFFs a place in the reception or something though. Have them give a nice toast or something.
Post # 4
Being invited to an intimate elopement is not really a downgrade for the people who would have been your bridesmaids at a larger wedding. It’s really quite an honor! Most city halls will let you have a number of guests. We’re eloping and it’s really turned out to be quite romantic and far more relaxing.
Post # 5
I think having your BMs as witnesses is a great way to honor them! Also, just because you’re thinking of eloping doesn’t mean you can enjoy some festivities. They can still throw you a shower (pre or post) or even as Snowflake suggested, a toast at a reception.
I have seen so many beautiful elopements floating around on the wedding blogs and I love that it has become a socially acceptable option for couples. Because honestly, a big wedding isn’t for everyone and I think that the people involved in yours will add the the very special moment that you and your Fiance are sharing.
Post # 6
I think once you explain to your friends that you’re eloping, they’ll understand that you are not having bridesmaids, and will hopefully feel happy that you are including them in such a select “audience”.
Post # 7
I agree that being a part of the audience at an elopement is just as special as being in the wedding party of a larger wedding. I say go for it if it’s definitely something you want. Don’t rush it though just because it’s easier if you feel at all that you might regret it later.
You can elope now and maybe have a big reception celebration later. I had some friends who did this (she was from Brazil and needed residency, so they rushed and eloped, but then about a year later his mom threw them a big reception with cake cutting, first dance, and all of that. they even got wedding rings for one another – something they couldnt afford or have time for before) It was so nice.
Post # 8
I’m a Canadian who will be moving to the USA once my K1 Visa is approved next year… Honestly, I consider eloping every single day.
Immigration is costly, a 6 month beat down & your every aspect of your life is looked at. It’s so tiring… and then try making a wedding happen within 90 days of your Fiance setting foot in the country. Yeah.
Eloping sounds really good especially when immigration is involved!