- 6 years ago
- Wedding: May 2013
My wedding is in about a month and a half, and I am thinking of letting go one of my bridesmaids…
I currently have 6 in my party (one Maid of Honor and 5 bridesmaids), and all except for this one girl have been so supportive and helpful throughout everything. This girl and I used to be closer when I first got engaged but have just grown apart over time.
I haven’t really asked much, I’m not a demanding bride at all and all of my other bridesmaids tell me this all the time. The only things I’ve asked them to do is cover the price of their dress/alterations and the shoes. I’ve taken care of their other accessories and my mom is taking care of hair, make-up, and all that.
Everyones been pretty cooperative and willing aside from this one girl. She’s constantly complaining about money and the price of things. I know weddings are expensive, and even just to be in one can be expensive…but i know she’s been in at least one wedding before and should have kind of expected that she was going to have to spend some money. I understand not having the money, and I definitely sympathize, but why commit to being in someones wedding if you know you can’t afford to be? She’s known about this event for a long time, and I feel if she was really committed and excited about doing it that she could have saved up a little, and if not she should have let us know earlier and it wouldn’t have been a problem. But she also avoids everyones phones calls and attempt to contact and will just not show up if all the bridesmaids get together to discuss wedding-relating things.
Anyways – eventually she did end up buying the dress, but it wasn’t until after much complaining and a phone call from my mom. Now shes complaining about alterations and shoes. All of the other bridesmaids are all set with everything. She says she hasn’t done anything and that its on her “to-do list”. Keep in mind theres like a little over a month till my wedding.
Also she showed up late to my shower and left early, when all the other bridesmaid came early and did not leave till it was over. She also did not bring a card, gift, or anything. (this doesn’t really matter to me, but just to paint a better picture of the whole scenario)
i dont know what to do. We are not really friends anymore (grew apart over time), but i dont dislike her as a person, she was just not the best choice for a bridesmaid and unfortunately I had to find this out the hard way.
My mom and I are thinking of reimbursing her for her dress and relieving her of her position as a bridesmaid. She does not seem like shes interested in being in the wedding anymore as it is. Any thoughts?