(Closed) Thinking of moving to Hawaii… What would you do?

posted 6 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
1766 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

It sounds like you already did a lot of research on it, have a plan, and know what you would get yourselves into.  If you don’t plan to settle for a while and don’t mind being “poor” in Hawaii, then go for it!  Now is the time. Just make sure you have some money saved on the side for the move back if things don’t work out for some reason.

Post # 5
667 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

go for it, you will regret it if you do not. 

Post # 6
786 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

If you don’t have a timeline (like you want to have babies as soon as you get married or something) and have 1-2 years to kind of do what you’d like, I would totally do it! I LOVE Hawaii!! Where in Hawaii are you thinking of moving?

Post # 7
333 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Sounds like a dream. Go for it!! It sounds like you’ve really thought it through, so take the jump πŸ™‚ 

Btw, man am i jealous of your adventure haha!

Post # 9
1053 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

It sounds like you’ve done research and are very responsible with your money up until this point  – I say do it!  There is no better time for an adventure than when you are a newlywed!

Post # 10
1767 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Um yes. DO IT hahaha. Darling Husband and I are sort of hoping he gets stationed there soon, because I can think of nothing more amazing. Definitely an adventure!

Post # 11
9824 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

I know people who have moved to Hawaii for the same reasons, and some observations. Hawaii IS beautiful and amazing. And yes, insanely expensive, especially rent wise. Some islanders don’t particularly care for the people that come and move there temporarily to have an “adventure”, so keep that in mind. I personally would not want to move back home and completely start over financially while trying to plan for kids and home ownership. If you’re not operating with much money once you’re there, that might hinder the romantic ideas you have in place for life there. Struggling with rent and bills and not being able to get out and have fun when you feel like it because of money can put a damper on your mood no matter what kind of a tropical paradise you’re living in.

So you’re not crazy, it sounds fun! But don’t go unless it would definitely be the experience you want it to be 100%, and it seems like an important factor would be your husband being able to locate a job and come home with some savings, especially if something were to happen with you both being so far away from home.

Post # 12
5670 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

Go for it! That sounds like such an exciting adventure and it also sounds like you have thought it through. Darling Husband and I are expecting and while were a thrilled we were talking about how fun it would be to move and live down south, but his business is now established here and with the LO on the way there isn’t much room to take risks and make those kinds of adjustments right now.

Post # 13
907 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Go for it!  It sounds like it would be a wonderful experience and you’ve clearly thought a lot about it and have a good plan.  Like you said, you think you’ll regret it if you don’t.  I had a similar experience (only I was 30) when I wanted to move somewhere new.  It felt a little crazy, but it turned out to be the best decision because I met my now-husband 7 months after moving.  That said, you never know what wonderful surprises may be in store for you as a result of following this tugging.  A good friend of mine and her husband just moved to Europe for an adventure.  Life is too short to not take advantage of some of these opportunities (or to create opportunities). 

Post # 14
1729 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@lindseyrose:  Go for it! Learn as much as you can before you can go so you’ll be as prepared as possible but really, based on what you’ve written, I think odds are in your favor to do just fine for a few years and have an awesome experience, maybe even a baby “made in Hawaii”!

I’ve popped in to read the City Data forums regularly over the years and I’ve  noticed that many of the posts/responses are negative and pessimistic. I moved to Hawaii nearly a decade ago and I can say that the negative posts and the overall tone of that forum does not reflect my personal experience.

I live in Honolulu, on the island of O’ahu. While Honolulu is definitely a city, there are other smaller towns on O’ahu that have a different feel than the city. For instance, Kailua, Kaneohe, the North Shore towns. Just a thought. I only point this out because I am not personally as familiar with what it’s like to live on the neighbor islands, such as the Big Island, Maui, or Kauai (another to possibly think about…).

Yes, rent is expensive. That has been my biggest challenge. Many other things are also more expensive but you’d probably find that you quickly adjust to the higher prices for food, gas, etc. When my mom comes to visit, she always points out how expensive the groceries and tells me how much the same thing costs where she lives, lol. O’ahu and the Big Island (and maybe other islands) also have Costco, Safeway, Target, Walmart (yikes), and other mainland stores that make shopping a bit more affordable. Of course, it’s good to support local businesses, too.

A lot of the activities that you’ve mentioned enjoying are either free or fairly low cost. Hiking? Free! Beach? Free! Snorkeling? Small investment. Surfing? Once you have the surfboards, free! Exploring the island? Just a little gas money and a picnic lunch!

If you come, I definitely recommend bringing as little as possible. Especially since the move is intended to be temporary. You won’t need most of it and space is often at a premium in many rentals. 

You mentioned that your family and friends may come to visit you…that’s probably very true, too! When I moved, I worried it would be forever until I saw my friends again but 4 of my very closest friends all visited within the first two years and it was amazing!

I haven’t experienced any difficulty at all getting along with people in Hawaii. If you generally get along with people where you currently live and have a kind, humble, respectful personality, you should be fine.

Feel free to PM me with any questions πŸ™‚


Post # 15
674 posts
Busy bee

One way to bring down the cost would be to consider an island other than Oahu. Granted, there are more opportunities to rent on Oahu with more people, but you might be able to make your money go farther on another island.

Also, not everything is more expensive than on the mainland. I was actually looking at wine & spirit prices out there since we’re considering a wedding there, and they are significantly cheaper than Pennsylvania where we live right now. I realize you can’t live on booze alone, but it’s just a reminder that not everything is as expensive as we hype it up to be. πŸ˜‰

I’d say go for it if you have the means. I don’t know anyone who hasn’t loved living out there. My 88-year-old grandmother who looks 20 years younger and still gets around as though she’s 30 years younger has been blissfully happy out there since the 60s. πŸ™‚

Post # 16
13099 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I’m going to go against the grain here and say I don’t think this sounds like the greatest of ideas.

If spending a year or two living in Hawaii is going to put you in such a spot financially that you’d need “both of [your] familes … to take [you] in for a few months while [you] get back on [your] feet”, that just doesn’t seem like a smart decision financially.

Yes – sometimes we wind up in situations beyond our control where we may need to ask for help from family but purposfully putting yourself in that boat just to have some adventure isn’t a good idea.

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