Post # 1
How can I get my FH to think outside the box when it comes to "unconventional" ideas?
He hasn’t been to many weddings, maybe one or two in the early 90’s, so he has a hard time when I bring up the fantastical ideas I have for OUR wedding. It’s pretty much a battle every time I suggest something that is not typically "traditional" and it’s starting to wear me down.
I try to present the ideas so they seem FUN and FRESH and INEXPENSIVE! But he’s just not riding the same Wedding Train as me…
Post # 3
just show him select wedding pictures of ideas you like, so he can visualize it, just don’t overwhelm him with too much at once if he is anything like my FH, hehe
Post # 4
I agree with cannotwait! Guys are such visual creatures (as most of us know). Draw him a picture or get some inspirational photos off the internet. Maybe he just can’t picture it in his head. Also, if it were my Fiance, I would ask him to please trust my taste and decisions. You can explain to him that weddings today are great because truly "anything goes". Brides and grooms can do mostly whatever they feel comfortable doing. It’s not like the old days when tradition was all there was.
Perhaps your Fiance is just a bit overwhelmed by all this wedding stuff and needs a little pep talk and some visuals. Good luck!
Post # 5
I agree with the girls above! I have to catch my Fiance when he’s not in the middle of something or very stressed from school, and then I have to show him pictures so he understands. I also try to curb my excitement and explain it calmly so he doesn’t get overwhelmed. Thankfully, he’s open to a lot of my ideas, thinks a lot of them are really awesome, and the ones he doesn’t we can usually find an acceptable alternative.
Post # 6
I know the feeling! I had no idea my Fiance would expect such a traditional wedding, but I agree with the other girls — take is slowly! I found this especially hard b/c I get so excited when I get great ideas for the wedding and I want him to be equally excited, but I know it can be overwhelming for him. I’ve found that he’s much more receptive to my less-traditional plans when I explain why doing something will make the event personal and very ‘us’, not just a generic impersonal wedding. Like I’ve told him, I want this to be OUR wedding and not just A wedding.
Post # 7
Also, show him pictures of other people doing non-traditional things for their wedding! That way you won’t get the whole, "But everyone does it this way!" thing.
Try http://www.offbeatbride.com or http://www.indiebride.com, two of my favorites when I was planning (and still are).
Post # 8
Thanks everyone for your advice!