(Closed) Thinnking he is go to propose on vacation- know he won’t- how not to be sad

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
1927 posts
Buzzing bee

How can you be sure he hasn’t bought the ring?  Or it’s possible he is going to propose without a ring and then have you involved in choosing one?  Either way.. just enjoy the vacation and focus on having a good time with your boyfriend.  Forcing the issue is no good for anyone so just try to put it in the back of your mind.  Easier said than done, but it’s the best thing to do to keep both of you sane!

Post # 4
423 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I know this isn’t for everyone, but just throwing it out there:  What if you proposed to him in NYC?  If that’s a place you’d love to get engaged in, why not do it? Plan something super romantic and memorable and then pop the question! It could be super amounts of fun coming up with the absolute best spot to do it, what to say, etc. If you go this route, I’d probably say do it at a time/place other than the restaurant he’s already booked – go all out and do it your way!

If that’s really not your style, then I’m really not sure what you could do to keep from being upset if you don’t get engaged there.  Just try and focus on all the fun I’m sure you’re going to have, is the only advice I’ve got.

Have fun!! It’ll still be a wonderful trip, I’m sure!

Post # 5
2788 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I totally talked myself, my co workers, my family, even my cat – literally everyone out of thinking that my then Boyfriend or Best Friend would propose on our vacation because he had told me that it “wasn’t in the budget.”  They all swore it would happen, and I knew it would not. Well, we got engaged on vacation.  Just saying.

Post # 6
67 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I just went to Mexico with my bf.  I pretty much knew he wouldnt do it there bc I know he hasnt bought a ring.  I just chilled out and had a good time.  The vacation brought us closer together in our relationship.  So if you can, just put it out of your mind.  It wont be the end of the world.  Look at it this way…you guys are comfortable enougth to go to a different city with only the two of you.  That says a lot. 

It is hard to not think about it…but the only time I really think about it is when I alone….with the internet….aggghhhh. Haha.

Have fun.  It will come soon enough.

Post # 7
1339 posts
Bumble bee

Have you read His Cold Feet?  The author talks about just that happening to her for years…..The book is a must read for anyone waiting!

Post # 8
651 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Well, it still might happen!!  And for your sake, I’ll hope that it does, but just don’t expect it.  Just live in the moment and enjoy the fact that you are going on a vacation.  Don’t think about what could or might happen or be sad at what didn’t.  🙂

Post # 9
174 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Eden just wanted to say while i have no advice to give i am in exactly the same position as you. In fact i could have written you post word for word and posted something very similar! been with the boyfriend 2 years this month, live together and started talking wedding last sept! i try very hard to avoid talking about the e word and when he does talk about it i can’t bring myself to ask him to elaborate. i know we will get e eventually but im a thousand % ready now and just need2wait for him to catch up! im almost certain that it won’t be next week but want to accept that in my head before then so i can just enjoy being with him and not feeling like a b*tch when the little box doesn’t make an appearance! if you come up with a resolution let me know! good luck x

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