Maybe this will make you feel better:
All of these wedding blogs, wedding websites, wedding magazines, etc., are businesses. Most of their income comes from advertising, ads from wedding vendors who want to sell you stuff. I know girls get excited about being featured on these websites and blogs and magazines (my wedding was in The Knot and a local wedding magazine blog), but the truth is, it’s a form of advertisement. It’s meant to make other brides-to-be think “maybe I need to add that to my wedding” and when you make the decision to add it, it generates business for the vendor who can provide that good/service. You can say, “oh but it’s DIY,” but DIY projects also involve materials, even if it’s inexpensive, from Michael’s or Hobby Lobby or fancy paper store.
Just look at The Knot’s “Real Weddings” feature, there is usually one or two photos of the actual bride and groom and their bridal parties, but tons of photos of flowers, cakes, details, invitations, etc etc. So you can feel like, “oh yes that would look good at my wedding, I must have it!” and purchase a similar good/service.
And you must realize that the average budget for a magazine wedding is probably much higher than the average budget for all weddings nationwide. Because more expensive weddings usually means they bought more stuff (flowers, bigger cakes, letterpress invitations, etc) and that’s more stuff for the magazines to feature to sell to other brides.
I had an average to maybe slightly above average budget for my wedding. I didn’t do anything with “oh I must get on a blog!” in mind. The thing that was most important to me was to provide my guests with good food and drinks because we are foodies and have tons of foodie friends. I also wanted great photography. I splurged on those two items and those two items only. I ended up in The Knot because my photographer submits all their weddings and it got chosen. And as cool as it is to have that as a keepsake, the thing I love the most til this day (more than a year later) is when someone mentions how much fun they had at the wedding (the avocado bar comes up a lot as the most memorable thing) and I knew I had achieved what I set out to do, provide a great meal and fun experience for my guests. Nobody cared that we didn’t have place cards, my dress was a sample that was altered and probably not the best choice for my body type, my florals were very simple (monochromatic arrangements), I didn’t have a photobooth or a dessert bar or fancy uplighting. But I had a good time at my own wedding, and that’s what matters.